It would best for conversations to happen, just without bothering me
Why would that be better than the conversations not happening here at all?
So could you say which ones you mean?
I would prefer not to point to specific threads. Generally speaking, what most irritates me is exchanges where we talk past each other in long comments without ever quite engaging with each others’ main points, and threads where we don’t really engage one another at all but rather all try to show off how individually clever we are.
Well, OK, but… let me back up a bit here, because I’m now confused.
You’ve said that you’re talking about conversations that bother you by tempting you to participate in them, and you’ve (tentatively) endorsed the goal of shutting those conversations down. But you’ve also said you endorse allowing conversations to continue if people want those conversations. And it seems implicit in the whole conversation that you’re treating peoples’ participation in conversations as evidence that they want those conversations.
It seems that those three sentences describe an internally inconsistent set of desires… that is, if they were true of me, there would exist conversations C such that I both want C shut down and do not want C shut down.
Which, OK, that sort of goal-conflict is certainly a thing that happens to human brains, it happens to me all the time, and if that’s what’s going on then I understand my confusion about it and no further clarification is necessary. (Or, well, more accurate is to say I consider no further clarification likely.)
But if that’s not what’s going on then I’m confused.
First, at least some of the other people in these conversation say that unlike myself, they really want to participate in them and it’s not a temptation they would want to avoid.
Second, I would prefer those conversations to exist (since others want them) if they could exist in a way that would not tempt me to join in, as it does now. Of which I said that I don’t know if that goal could be achieved in practice (except by moving these conversations to a completely separate site, obviously).
As long as that goal is not achieved at least partially, I recognize there’s a problem (for myself) with having these conversations here on LW. And I tentatively welcome changes to the LW rules that try to fix this, even though I am uncertain if the specific changes being implemented will not have other, worse, negative effects as well.
Yes there are conflicting goals here, but I am explicitly balancing them.
Why would that be better than the conversations not happening here at all?
I would prefer not to point to specific threads. Generally speaking, what most irritates me is exchanges where we talk past each other in long comments without ever quite engaging with each others’ main points, and threads where we don’t really engage one another at all but rather all try to show off how individually clever we are.
Because it would be better for others to have the conversations they want, and the same to me if I were not bothered.
Well, OK, but… let me back up a bit here, because I’m now confused.
You’ve said that you’re talking about conversations that bother you by tempting you to participate in them, and you’ve (tentatively) endorsed the goal of shutting those conversations down. But you’ve also said you endorse allowing conversations to continue if people want those conversations. And it seems implicit in the whole conversation that you’re treating peoples’ participation in conversations as evidence that they want those conversations.
It seems that those three sentences describe an internally inconsistent set of desires… that is, if they were true of me, there would exist conversations C such that I both want C shut down and do not want C shut down.
Which, OK, that sort of goal-conflict is certainly a thing that happens to human brains, it happens to me all the time, and if that’s what’s going on then I understand my confusion about it and no further clarification is necessary. (Or, well, more accurate is to say I consider no further clarification likely.)
But if that’s not what’s going on then I’m confused.
First, at least some of the other people in these conversation say that unlike myself, they really want to participate in them and it’s not a temptation they would want to avoid.
Second, I would prefer those conversations to exist (since others want them) if they could exist in a way that would not tempt me to join in, as it does now. Of which I said that I don’t know if that goal could be achieved in practice (except by moving these conversations to a completely separate site, obviously).
As long as that goal is not achieved at least partially, I recognize there’s a problem (for myself) with having these conversations here on LW. And I tentatively welcome changes to the LW rules that try to fix this, even though I am uncertain if the specific changes being implemented will not have other, worse, negative effects as well.
Yes there are conflicting goals here, but I am explicitly balancing them.