One thing that I do to invite more frank criticism from people is to ask in the frame of “I think I’m bad at X, do you have any specific thoughts or suggestions to help me get better?” (where X is a pretty broad category). This pre-commits to the position that you’re bad at it, which gets rid of (most of) the status risk for them in criticizing you.
One thing that I do to invite more frank criticism from people is to ask in the frame of “I think I’m bad at X, do you have any specific thoughts or suggestions to help me get better?” (where X is a pretty broad category). This pre-commits to the position that you’re bad at it, which gets rid of (most of) the status risk for them in criticizing you.