I think you are missing an important point. Hot take: The I need you to “just listen to me” might be a mechanism that often useful. Very often it happens that people are overeager to tell you how to solve your problems, without first building a good model of the world. They try to solve the problem before you can even give them all the information neccesary to generate a good suggestion.
Of cause this mechanism is very dumb. It’s implemented at the level of emotions. People don’t realize that this is the evolved purpose. You can do a lot better by taking manual control.
That is not to say your conclusion is wrong. But I think it is important to understand what is going on. I expect that if you can convey to somebody a mechanistic model of why they want to you to “just listen”, they have a better model tha allows them to choose better.
I think you are missing an important point. Hot take: The I need you to “just listen to me” might be a mechanism that often useful. Very often it happens that people are overeager to tell you how to solve your problems, without first building a good model of the world. They try to solve the problem before you can even give them all the information neccesary to generate a good suggestion.
Of cause this mechanism is very dumb. It’s implemented at the level of emotions. People don’t realize that this is the evolved purpose. You can do a lot better by taking manual control.
That is not to say your conclusion is wrong. But I think it is important to understand what is going on. I expect that if you can convey to somebody a mechanistic model of why they want to you to “just listen”, they have a better model tha allows them to choose better.