If I were in her shoes, I would immediately jump to getting rid of the damn nail, it wouldn’t even occur to me to not fix it.
I was in Facebook discussion, when someone described problem he encountered not long ago. I answered with advance that i believe can solve his problem. and got answered by woman who claim that I’m not sensitive and it’s cruel.
and it’s look so backwards to me. describing his error and explain how to solve the problem is cruel,because I blame him for his problem. it’s better be “compassionate” and “sensitive” and commiserate and let him have the problem, then solve it. wtf???
and, like, there are legitimate counter-arguments. but they are from the form “you solution is wrong” or more generally “your model of the problem is wrong”. In the same way that my counter-argument to the video is “there is no nail, you just write story when you right”. although, maybe if i had more interactions like this, I would have been more sympathetic to it.
I think there are times for commiseration and sympathy. but. like. when solving the problem judged as cruel, the judging algorithm is totally fucked up!
( I don’t feel disgust, and I don’t sure it help you, but also not that in hinder you. but if I would feel disappointment i would see it as a problem to fix—it mean I expected more and was negatively surprised, and I try to be calibrated. being repeatedly surprised by the same thing is the sort of things I try to fix, and I probably try to become stronger less then you are.)
I was in Facebook discussion, when someone described problem he encountered not long ago. I answered with advance that i believe can solve his problem. and got answered by woman who claim that I’m not sensitive and it’s cruel.
and it’s look so backwards to me. describing his error and explain how to solve the problem is cruel,because I blame him for his problem. it’s better be “compassionate” and “sensitive” and commiserate and let him have the problem, then solve it. wtf???
and, like, there are legitimate counter-arguments. but they are from the form “you solution is wrong” or more generally “your model of the problem is wrong”. In the same way that my counter-argument to the video is “there is no nail, you just write story when you right”. although, maybe if i had more interactions like this, I would have been more sympathetic to it.
I think there are times for commiseration and sympathy. but. like. when solving the problem judged as cruel, the judging algorithm is totally fucked up!
( I don’t feel disgust, and I don’t sure it help you, but also not that in hinder you. but if I would feel disappointment i would see it as a problem to fix—it mean I expected more and was negatively surprised, and I try to be calibrated. being repeatedly surprised by the same thing is the sort of things I try to fix, and I probably try to become stronger less then you are.)