It sounds like you’re not really empathizing, even when you say you’re trying to do so. Emotional empathy involves feeling someone else’s feelings, and cognitive empathy involves understanding their mental processes. What you seem to be doing is imagining yourself in a superficially similar situation, and then judging the other person on their failure to behave how (you imagine) you would.
It sounds like you’re not really empathizing, even when you say you’re trying to do so. Emotional empathy involves feeling someone else’s feelings, and cognitive empathy involves understanding their mental processes. What you seem to be doing is imagining yourself in a superficially similar situation, and then judging the other person on their failure to behave how (you imagine) you would.
TLDR: Skill issue.