To improve, you may want to start by sketching out what an ideal interaction with a person that has a nail in their head looks like for you, and figure out how to get closer to that.
To me such an ideal interaction could be:
removing the disgust (because it has low valence)
feeling at ease with the fact that there are people in the world that have nails in their head (remembering that you, them and the nail are the natural unfolding of physics might help)
feeling joy when people (or myself) improve (the joy keeps the incentive to help them and become stronger myself)
I think the gist is removing low valence internal events and replacing them with high valence ones, while keeping the incentives to be functional.
I am not sure how much it’s possible to shift on the valence axis while retaining functionality (given the human reward circuitry) but some people do look much happier than others (be it because of genetics, meditation or other) and they usually say it makes them more productive so I’m rather optimistic.
To improve, you may want to start by sketching out what an ideal interaction with a person that has a nail in their head looks like for you, and figure out how to get closer to that.
To me such an ideal interaction could be:
removing the disgust (because it has low valence)
feeling at ease with the fact that there are people in the world that have nails in their head (remembering that you, them and the nail are the natural unfolding of physics might help)
feeling joy when people (or myself) improve (the joy keeps the incentive to help them and become stronger myself)
I think the gist is removing low valence internal events and replacing them with high valence ones, while keeping the incentives to be functional.
I am not sure how much it’s possible to shift on the valence axis while retaining functionality (given the human reward circuitry) but some people do look much happier than others (be it because of genetics, meditation or other) and they usually say it makes them more productive so I’m rather optimistic.