Well, what is an example of X having a “neutral “ attitude to Y, assuming they’re not strangers? What behaviours on the part of Y might lead to that evaluation by X, that Y might do to avoid the dreaded dislike?
It may vary with context. For example, at a party, never talking to anyone will be negatively noticed; at a large conference, no-one will notice.
I think what Chipmonk means by a neutral attitude is where X will not actively seek to harm Y due to the actions taken by Y. For instance, if Y has reason to believe that X may shame, fire, ruin the reputation of, prosecute or murder Y if Y does something X does not like, then Y will desperately try to avoid this outcome. This leads to anxiety, since doing nothing prevents catastrophic dislike and the negative outcomes associated with them.
Similarly, if Y cannot accurately predict what behaviors will result in a hostile response from X, they will withdraw and try to avoid making any significant social moves. As a result, Y will experience anxiety.
Well, what is an example of X having a “neutral “ attitude to Y, assuming they’re not strangers? What behaviours on the part of Y might lead to that evaluation by X, that Y might do to avoid the dreaded dislike?
It may vary with context. For example, at a party, never talking to anyone will be negatively noticed; at a large conference, no-one will notice.
I think what Chipmonk means by a neutral attitude is where X will not actively seek to harm Y due to the actions taken by Y. For instance, if Y has reason to believe that X may shame, fire, ruin the reputation of, prosecute or murder Y if Y does something X does not like, then Y will desperately try to avoid this outcome. This leads to anxiety, since doing nothing prevents catastrophic dislike and the negative outcomes associated with them.
Similarly, if Y cannot accurately predict what behaviors will result in a hostile response from X, they will withdraw and try to avoid making any significant social moves. As a result, Y will experience anxiety.