The article itself says that lesswrongers were part of the data set but I didn’t take this to mean this was about lesswrong in general.
I read the subject line for the OP but the title of the article was so similar I didn’t notice it wasn’t exactly the same. Sigh. I think I’ve been had by change blindness. (There’s an interesting LW article I’m being reminded of right now.). My title oversight explains most of the confusion here.
What are the reasoning skills you identified as lacking in my comments?
None. It was perceived lack of motivation to read things that prompted that. This perception is fixed now. I’m sorry about that.
Maybe you’re annoyed I didn’t get your child/rapist example?
I am constantly alienated and usually somewhere near my limit for alienation. Often past it, often just below it. If I seem annoyed, that is probably to blame more than anything. I’m perma-annoyed.
I want to know if I’m being irrational, that’s the whole point of this.
If you want to continue after my oversight with the title, I will engage, but I should probably start over and re-focus. What specific perception(s) do you want to discuss?
Thanks for your reply, it makes me feel much better and I’m glad and impressed we’re not annoyed at each other, especially considering I can also be easily annoyed. I think a lot of people can understand being alienated but I don’t know what the rationalist solution is. For me, it was one of those things that was a feedback loop and thus really hard to get out of. That’s part of why I like HPMOR- Harry is like an alien trying to make a single friend. In his case, he’s alone because he’s superior to everyone and thus can’t rely on anyone else, which may be some cold comfort, but that wasn’t exactly my situation...
Thanks for your reply, it makes me feel much better and I’m glad and impressed we’re not annoyed at each other, especially considering I can also be easily annoyed.
Oh! Yay! (:
I think a lot of people can understand being alienated but I don’t know what the rationalist solution is.
It seems to me that many on LW are alienated, and it’s resulting in the most ridiculous clusterf… People desire to quickly jump to the conclusion that the person they’re talking to is not worth talking to (I think this might apply more to new people than others)… because they are so alienated and have to do something about it, but there’s this wild mix of causes of annoyance and it just makes a mess. There are older users who are spitting out logical fallacies, newer users who are clueless, new users who are sharp, old users who are sharp of course… and sometimes one annoys one’s self (which is what happened to me just now). And of course if people DON’T ignore annoying users, or at least tell them that they’re doing it wrong, they’re encouraged to stick around without improving the annoying behavior… but this is wrought with peril because as you have seen, if I am the one who made the mistake, and I tell you that you’ve made a mistake, I get to look like an idiot, and you get to feel bad for no reason. Many times, when somebody points out my mistake, it’s the same problem—they made a mistake but didn’t notice it, possibly because they’re so annoyed with the last 10 people that annoyed them that they’re not giving me the benefit of the doubt. Occasionally they do point out some mistake I made, so that’s good. But it seems like people here are a bit too apt to reach for the 2 x 4.
That’s part of why I like HPMOR- Harry is like an alien trying to make a single friend. In his case, he’s alone because he’s superior to everyone and thus can’t rely on anyone else, which may be some cold comfort, but that wasn’t exactly my situation...
What was your exact situation?
I am an alien for sure. I relate to not being able to rely on anyone else, but it is not comforting that I’m usually better at figuring things out than those around me. I have plenty of friends but the friendships are one-sided: I am understanding and emotionally supportive to them, but they do not understand me deeply enough so they aren’t really useful for me to talk to about my thoughts and feelings. I’ve noticed that most of the other aliens haven’t mastered staying rational when they’ve discovered an interesting alien they might get close to. This has ruined the vast majority of my attempts to get to know other aliens. I used to have a problem with staying rational when meeting other aliens myself—but that’s not my problem anymore. Now my problem is that nearly everybody else is going about it in dysfunctional ways and I’m burnt out on that. I have no idea how to solve this, so I’m just walking away from that catastrophe and I’ve decided to fill my time up with group projects for now.
I read the subject line for the OP but the title of the article was so similar I didn’t notice it wasn’t exactly the same. Sigh. I think I’ve been had by change blindness. (There’s an interesting LW article I’m being reminded of right now.). My title oversight explains most of the confusion here.
None. It was perceived lack of motivation to read things that prompted that. This perception is fixed now. I’m sorry about that.
I am constantly alienated and usually somewhere near my limit for alienation. Often past it, often just below it. If I seem annoyed, that is probably to blame more than anything. I’m perma-annoyed.
If you want to continue after my oversight with the title, I will engage, but I should probably start over and re-focus. What specific perception(s) do you want to discuss?
Thanks for your reply, it makes me feel much better and I’m glad and impressed we’re not annoyed at each other, especially considering I can also be easily annoyed. I think a lot of people can understand being alienated but I don’t know what the rationalist solution is. For me, it was one of those things that was a feedback loop and thus really hard to get out of. That’s part of why I like HPMOR- Harry is like an alien trying to make a single friend. In his case, he’s alone because he’s superior to everyone and thus can’t rely on anyone else, which may be some cold comfort, but that wasn’t exactly my situation...
Oh! Yay! (:
It seems to me that many on LW are alienated, and it’s resulting in the most ridiculous clusterf… People desire to quickly jump to the conclusion that the person they’re talking to is not worth talking to (I think this might apply more to new people than others)… because they are so alienated and have to do something about it, but there’s this wild mix of causes of annoyance and it just makes a mess. There are older users who are spitting out logical fallacies, newer users who are clueless, new users who are sharp, old users who are sharp of course… and sometimes one annoys one’s self (which is what happened to me just now). And of course if people DON’T ignore annoying users, or at least tell them that they’re doing it wrong, they’re encouraged to stick around without improving the annoying behavior… but this is wrought with peril because as you have seen, if I am the one who made the mistake, and I tell you that you’ve made a mistake, I get to look like an idiot, and you get to feel bad for no reason. Many times, when somebody points out my mistake, it’s the same problem—they made a mistake but didn’t notice it, possibly because they’re so annoyed with the last 10 people that annoyed them that they’re not giving me the benefit of the doubt. Occasionally they do point out some mistake I made, so that’s good. But it seems like people here are a bit too apt to reach for the 2 x 4.
What was your exact situation?
I am an alien for sure. I relate to not being able to rely on anyone else, but it is not comforting that I’m usually better at figuring things out than those around me. I have plenty of friends but the friendships are one-sided: I am understanding and emotionally supportive to them, but they do not understand me deeply enough so they aren’t really useful for me to talk to about my thoughts and feelings. I’ve noticed that most of the other aliens haven’t mastered staying rational when they’ve discovered an interesting alien they might get close to. This has ruined the vast majority of my attempts to get to know other aliens. I used to have a problem with staying rational when meeting other aliens myself—but that’s not my problem anymore. Now my problem is that nearly everybody else is going about it in dysfunctional ways and I’m burnt out on that. I have no idea how to solve this, so I’m just walking away from that catastrophe and I’ve decided to fill my time up with group projects for now.