We were really having a dominance fight, through vaguely technical arguments. Once you realize that men do this, you see it fairly often.
This is a great observation! But, as often happens in political debates, “mansplaining” is a motte-and-bailey term, which could mean the thing you just described, or it could mean “a man tried to say something”, or anything in between, depending on who used it and in which context.
Also, it is not an exclusively male behavior, despite the name. I have no strong opinion on whether it is a mostly male behavior, because I assume that most female dominance fights happen out of my sight, for various reasons. But I am pretty sure I have seen women fighting for dominance using supposedly factual arguments a few times.
Originally I though that you cannot disagree with a women while flirting, since it is a dominance play ala man world. But actually you can disagree in a non-conflictive way.
Depends on whether the specific woman finds dominance attractive. And that probably also depends on the type/degree of dominance, her mood, and how well you know each other. Yes, this “partially agree, partially disagree” strategy seems like the golden middle way between being disagreeable and boring.
Depends on whether the specific woman finds dominance attractive. And that probably also depends on the type/degree of dominance, her mood, and how well you know each other. Yes, this “partially agree, partially disagree” strategy seems like the golden middle way between being disagreeable and boring.
I think many women, perhaps a majority, find a more dominant man attractive. Basically ensure any fact-based dominance display doesn’t make the other person feel stupid. Good rule for lots of interactions.
This is a great observation! But, as often happens in political debates, “mansplaining” is a motte-and-bailey term, which could mean the thing you just described, or it could mean “a man tried to say something”, or anything in between, depending on who used it and in which context.
Also, it is not an exclusively male behavior, despite the name. I have no strong opinion on whether it is a mostly male behavior, because I assume that most female dominance fights happen out of my sight, for various reasons. But I am pretty sure I have seen women fighting for dominance using supposedly factual arguments a few times.
Depends on whether the specific woman finds dominance attractive. And that probably also depends on the type/degree of dominance, her mood, and how well you know each other. Yes, this “partially agree, partially disagree” strategy seems like the golden middle way between being disagreeable and boring.
I agree with all of those points.
I think many women, perhaps a majority, find a more dominant man attractive. Basically ensure any fact-based dominance display doesn’t make the other person feel stupid. Good rule for lots of interactions.