I love your systematic approach to this. The skill of doing it with big-inferential-gap strangers seems to lack “natural” improvement gradients, and so it just doesn’t happen without explicit work.
One issue with prepared scripts is that they tend to sound much more cheesy than you expected when thinking them up.
I’ve had the rare kind of conversation where it was clear to both that both cared about listening. Sounding cheesy is no concern in this context—you also sound super genuine because you’re putting in real effort.
I agree some/many of us need a systematic approach, and this is a good one for introverts all ready to memorize things, but I figure you could also set up a “natural” improvement gradient via a series of debates, by going to a good debate club.
I love your systematic approach to this. The skill of doing it with big-inferential-gap strangers seems to lack “natural” improvement gradients, and so it just doesn’t happen without explicit work.
One issue with prepared scripts is that they tend to sound much more cheesy than you expected when thinking them up.
I’ve had the rare kind of conversation where it was clear to both that both cared about listening. Sounding cheesy is no concern in this context—you also sound super genuine because you’re putting in real effort.
I agree some/many of us need a systematic approach, and this is a good one for introverts all ready to memorize things, but I figure you could also set up a “natural” improvement gradient via a series of debates, by going to a good debate club.