If you mean this literally, it’s a pretty extraordinary claim! Like, if Alice is really doing important AI Safety work and/or donating large amounts of money, she’s plausibly saving multiple lives every year. Is the impact of being rude worse than killing multiple people per year?
(Note, I’m not saying in this comment that Alice should talk the way she does, or that Alice’s conversation techniques are effective or socially acceptable. I’m saying it’s extraordinary to claim that the toxic experience of Alice’s friends is equivalently bad to “any good she can do herself”. I think basically no amount of rudeness is equivalently bad to how good it is to save a life and/or help avert the apocalypse, but if you think it’s morally equivalent then I’d be really curious for your reasoning.)
If the “you other people need to work harder because I do and this is import” attitude starts pushing many people away in a setting that likely lives and dies from team/group efforts Alice will have to be an exceptional talent to make up for the collective loss. It might be well intended but can (and all too frequently does, hence the old saying) produce unintended consequences that prove to be counter productive.
Even if you’re saying it nicely, if the message is basically your not being good enough it becomes a bit alienating. One can definitely lead by example and try to create an environment where people want to do more but we should respect the level of contribution each is willing to produce—and certainly so if we’re not in a role where we get to define what the minimum acceptable contributions are.
If you mean this literally, it’s a pretty extraordinary claim! Like, if Alice is really doing important AI Safety work and/or donating large amounts of money, she’s plausibly saving multiple lives every year. Is the impact of being rude worse than killing multiple people per year?
(Note, I’m not saying in this comment that Alice should talk the way she does, or that Alice’s conversation techniques are effective or socially acceptable. I’m saying it’s extraordinary to claim that the toxic experience of Alice’s friends is equivalently bad to “any good she can do herself”. I think basically no amount of rudeness is equivalently bad to how good it is to save a life and/or help avert the apocalypse, but if you think it’s morally equivalent then I’d be really curious for your reasoning.)
If the “you other people need to work harder because I do and this is import” attitude starts pushing many people away in a setting that likely lives and dies from team/group efforts Alice will have to be an exceptional talent to make up for the collective loss. It might be well intended but can (and all too frequently does, hence the old saying) produce unintended consequences that prove to be counter productive.
Even if you’re saying it nicely, if the message is basically your not being good enough it becomes a bit alienating. One can definitely lead by example and try to create an environment where people want to do more but we should respect the level of contribution each is willing to produce—and certainly so if we’re not in a role where we get to define what the minimum acceptable contributions are.