I don’t think anyone would dispute that Alice is being extremely rude! Indeed she is deliberately written that way (though I think people aren’t reading it quite the way I wrote it because I intended them to be housemates or close friends, so Alice would legitimately know some amount about Bob’s goals and values.)
I think a real conversation involving a real Bob would definitely involve lots more thoughtful pauses that gave him time to think. Luckily it’s not a real conversation, just a blog post trying to stay within a reasonable word limit. :(
Alice is not my voice; this is supposed to inspire questions, not convince people of a point. For instance: is there a way to achieve what Alice wants to achieve, while being polite and not an asshole? Do you think the needs she expresses can be met without hurting Bob?
I don’t think anyone would dispute that Alice is being extremely rude! Indeed she is deliberately written that way (though I think people aren’t reading it quite the way I wrote it because I intended them to be housemates or close friends, so Alice would legitimately know some amount about Bob’s goals and values.)
I think a real conversation involving a real Bob would definitely involve lots more thoughtful pauses that gave him time to think. Luckily it’s not a real conversation, just a blog post trying to stay within a reasonable word limit. :(
Alice is not my voice; this is supposed to inspire questions, not convince people of a point. For instance: is there a way to achieve what Alice wants to achieve, while being polite and not an asshole? Do you think the needs she expresses can be met without hurting Bob?