Thanks for the comment! I like your granola bar example. Maybe survival-relevant properties like food are just more convincing to the mind than merely “feeling great afterwards”. :)
Regarding 3 / conflict, I also realize now it’s less general than I made it sound. I mostly react that way when explicitly blamed in the “you did something wrong and you really should have known better” sense, when I have the feeling that that wasn’t obvious for me at all. But even then, it’s always interesting to observe how my impression of reality can quickly shift when the circumstances change.
That makes sense. I read somewhere that in hunter gatherer contexts we evolved in, being shunned from the tribe could be life or death. I think to a certain extent that’s still true, but less so than in the past. In any case, it feels like a compelling reason that we would be hard coded to find interpersonal conflict really innately compelling.
Thanks for the comment! I like your granola bar example. Maybe survival-relevant properties like food are just more convincing to the mind than merely “feeling great afterwards”. :)
Regarding 3 / conflict, I also realize now it’s less general than I made it sound. I mostly react that way when explicitly blamed in the “you did something wrong and you really should have known better” sense, when I have the feeling that that wasn’t obvious for me at all. But even then, it’s always interesting to observe how my impression of reality can quickly shift when the circumstances change.
That makes sense. I read somewhere that in hunter gatherer contexts we evolved in, being shunned from the tribe could be life or death. I think to a certain extent that’s still true, but less so than in the past. In any case, it feels like a compelling reason that we would be hard coded to find interpersonal conflict really innately compelling.