You’re not the only person I know to make this claim, but I will admit to never having understood it.
That is, I can understand objecting to “If my neighbor visits I’ll give them a cookie” because it violates the English grammatical convention that the subject and object must match in quantity—singular “neighbor” doesn’t go with plural “them.” I don’t have a problem with that, myself, but I accept that some people do.
And I can understand endorsing “If my neighbor visits I’ll give em a cookie” despite it violating the English grammatical convention that “em” isn’t a pronoun. I don’t have a problem with that either.
But doing both at once seems unmotivated. If I’m willing to ignore English grammatical conventions enough to make up new pronouns altogether, I don’t see on what grounds I can object to someone else ignoring subject/object matching rules.
Mostly, when people say this sort of thing I understand it to be an aesthetic judgment, on a par with not liking the color blue. Which is fine, as long as they aren’t too obnoxious about trying to impose their aesthetic judgments on me.
That is, I can understand objecting to “If my neighbor visits I’ll give them a cookie” because it violates the English grammatical convention that the subject and object must match in quantity
Presumably you mean pronoun and antecedent. Clearly, subject and object need not agree in number (what you call “quantity”); such a requirement would in fact be logically impossible.
Yup, you’re right. I have absolutely no idea what my brain thought it was doing there.
Entirely incidentally: requiring that the subject and object match in number would admittedly be a strange sort of grammatical requirement to have, as it would preclude expressing all manner of useful thoughts (e.g., “Give me two slices of pizza”), and I’d be incredulous if an actual language claimed to have such a requirement, but I’m not sure it’s logically impossible.
You’re right, of course. In fact, one could conceive of a language where the grammatical number of the object would have to agree with the subject, and it would therefore not give any information about the actual number of things denoted by the object, which would have to be stated explicitly if it’s necessary to avoid ambiguity, like in languages that lack grammatical number altogether. For all I know, there might even be an actual human language somewhere that features something like this.
But doing both at once seems unmotivated. If I’m willing to ignore English grammatical conventions enough to make up new pronouns altogether, I don’t see on what grounds I can object to someone else ignoring subject/object matching rules.
I don’t consider the creation of words to fall under the auspices of grammar. That happens in English and other languages all the time, because new or different concepts frequently need to be expressed in ways that are unavailable in the current state of the language. Using new words promotes clarity, in the long term, but misusing current words does the opposite.
You’re not the only person I know to make this claim, but I will admit to never having understood it.
That is, I can understand objecting to “If my neighbor visits I’ll give them a cookie” because it violates the English grammatical convention that the subject and object must match in quantity—singular “neighbor” doesn’t go with plural “them.” I don’t have a problem with that, myself, but I accept that some people do.
And I can understand endorsing “If my neighbor visits I’ll give em a cookie” despite it violating the English grammatical convention that “em” isn’t a pronoun. I don’t have a problem with that either.
But doing both at once seems unmotivated. If I’m willing to ignore English grammatical conventions enough to make up new pronouns altogether, I don’t see on what grounds I can object to someone else ignoring subject/object matching rules.
Mostly, when people say this sort of thing I understand it to be an aesthetic judgment, on a par with not liking the color blue. Which is fine, as long as they aren’t too obnoxious about trying to impose their aesthetic judgments on me.
Presumably you mean pronoun and antecedent. Clearly, subject and object need not agree in number (what you call “quantity”); such a requirement would in fact be logically impossible.
Yup, you’re right. I have absolutely no idea what my brain thought it was doing there.
Entirely incidentally: requiring that the subject and object match in number would admittedly be a strange sort of grammatical requirement to have, as it would preclude expressing all manner of useful thoughts (e.g., “Give me two slices of pizza”), and I’d be incredulous if an actual language claimed to have such a requirement, but I’m not sure it’s logically impossible.
You’re right, of course. In fact, one could conceive of a language where the grammatical number of the object would have to agree with the subject, and it would therefore not give any information about the actual number of things denoted by the object, which would have to be stated explicitly if it’s necessary to avoid ambiguity, like in languages that lack grammatical number altogether. For all I know, there might even be an actual human language somewhere that features something like this.
I don’t consider the creation of words to fall under the auspices of grammar. That happens in English and other languages all the time, because new or different concepts frequently need to be expressed in ways that are unavailable in the current state of the language. Using new words promotes clarity, in the long term, but misusing current words does the opposite.