Huh, no. If they are likely to respond badly, I want to believe they are likely to respond badly. If they aren’t likely to respond badly, I want to believe they aren’t likely to respond badly. What is true is already so, owning it up doesn’t make it worse. The solution to that problem is to think twice and re-read the email and think about ways to make it less likely for it to be interpreted in an unintended way before hitting Send.
The thing is, it seems quite clear that the problem wasn’t about how likely they are to respond badly, but that Anna (?) would visualize and anticipate the negative response beforehand based on no evidence that they would respond poorly, simply as a programmed mental habit. This would end up creating a vicious circle where each time the negatives from past times make it even more likely that this time it feels bad, regardless of the actual reactions.
The tactic of smiling reinforces the action of sending emails instead of terrorizing yourself into never sending emails anymore (which I infer from context would be a bad thing), and once you’re rid of the looming vicious circle you can then base your predictions of the reaction on the content of the email, rather than have it be predetermined by your own feelings.
(Obligatory nitpicker’s note: I agree with pretty much everything you said, I just didn’t think that the real event in that example had a bad decision as you seemed to imply.)
The thing is, it seems quite clear that the problem wasn’t about how likely they are to respond badly, but that Anna (?) would visualize and anticipate the negative response beforehand based on no evidence that they would respond poorly, simply as a programmed mental habit. This would end up creating a vicious circle where each time the negatives from past times make it even more likely that this time it feels bad, regardless of the actual reactions.
The tactic of smiling reinforces the action of sending emails instead of terrorizing yourself into never sending emails anymore (which I infer from context would be a bad thing), and once you’re rid of the looming vicious circle you can then base your predictions of the reaction on the content of the email, rather than have it be predetermined by your own feelings.
(Obligatory nitpicker’s note: I agree with pretty much everything you said, I just didn’t think that the real event in that example had a bad decision as you seemed to imply.)