I don’t use karma to keep score, only as one of many sources of information about other people’s opinion. When one of the comments I’ve posted gets a much different response than I expected, it is my expectation that was at fault.
Note that one reason to be wrong about how people will respond to a given stimulus is to overestimate how much of a desirable trait that they have. So while “your expectation is at fault” to the extent that correctly predicting response is a goal, the update in such circumstance is still in the direction of less respect for the people you are attempting to predict. That can be disheartening at times.
Note that one reason to be wrong about how people will respond to a given stimulus is to overestimate how much of a desirable trait that they have. So while “your expectation is at fault” to the extent that correctly predicting response is a goal, the update in such circumstance is still in the direction of less respect for the people you are attempting to predict. That can be disheartening at times.