If you read it that way, then that is a communication failure, but I don’t know what part you are missing.
I think the easiest to point to difference (though not the full difference) is that my way of doing it gives the recipient the information they need to evaluate my (sometimes implicit) suggestion.
Maybe related: I’ve met people who will, what ever I say, try to interpret my words though the lens of [what action is Linda trying to get me to do? / what is the hidden request here?]. I can see that though that lens there is less of a difference. However, that’s a very limiting lens, that will miss most of what I’m attempting to say.
Isn’t this just a super obvious wrapper over “you should” advice?
No.
If you read it that way, then that is a communication failure, but I don’t know what part you are missing.
I think the easiest to point to difference (though not the full difference) is that my way of doing it gives the recipient the information they need to evaluate my (sometimes implicit) suggestion.
Maybe related: I’ve met people who will, what ever I say, try to interpret my words though the lens of [what action is Linda trying to get me to do? / what is the hidden request here?]. I can see that though that lens there is less of a difference. However, that’s a very limiting lens, that will miss most of what I’m attempting to say.