that the SO is special (that there aren’t tens of thousands of other potential SOs),
Doesn’t it matter how few of said other “potential” SOs live reasonably near you, aren’t already taken, and in turn view you as a potential SO for them?
My point was that it seems to me that people try to treat SOs as if they’re the only one on the planet for them, which clearly isn’t true.
But I agree, in a practical sense, the amount of potential SOs is definitely limited by those factors. For most people, I still think that there’s enough of them where most people would find one in a reasonable amount of time. But for people with more particular tastes, it could definitely be the case that you’ve found someone who you’re pretty unlikely to ever find someone like again.
Doesn’t it matter how few of said other “potential” SOs live reasonably near you, aren’t already taken, and in turn view you as a potential SO for them?
My point was that it seems to me that people try to treat SOs as if they’re the only one on the planet for them, which clearly isn’t true.
But I agree, in a practical sense, the amount of potential SOs is definitely limited by those factors. For most people, I still think that there’s enough of them where most people would find one in a reasonable amount of time. But for people with more particular tastes, it could definitely be the case that you’ve found someone who you’re pretty unlikely to ever find someone like again.