While I am unmarried and so had far less to lose, I have experienced a similar situation.
I find it useful to observe that you have been lying to yourself all your life. The difficulty of signalling affiliation while at the same time forming true beliefs of the world with which to govern your actions has now become the responsibility of your conscious mind rather than automatic instinct. There is no tablet upon which it is written that you must now rigorously deny your former faith. Nothing has changed.
Eliezer has spoken much of the ethical injunction against lies here. Yet he also mentioned the difference between always speaking the full truth and outright false statements. The gentlest way to handle the situation is to go along with your life, act as ever in accord with the values you hold so dear and yet to refrain from any engagement with any actual doctrine or words of faith. Your children will then likely become ‘Christmas and Easter’ christians while your grandkids are rid of the delusions completely.
While I am unmarried and so had far less to lose, I have experienced a similar situation.
I find it useful to observe that you have been lying to yourself all your life. The difficulty of signalling affiliation while at the same time forming true beliefs of the world with which to govern your actions has now become the responsibility of your conscious mind rather than automatic instinct. There is no tablet upon which it is written that you must now rigorously deny your former faith. Nothing has changed.
Eliezer has spoken much of the ethical injunction against lies here. Yet he also mentioned the difference between always speaking the full truth and outright false statements. The gentlest way to handle the situation is to go along with your life, act as ever in accord with the values you hold so dear and yet to refrain from any engagement with any actual doctrine or words of faith. Your children will then likely become ‘Christmas and Easter’ christians while your grandkids are rid of the delusions completely.