A few people here said: “If that person was really special, there would be no problem with you telling him.”
But are things really that simple? Not so long ago, Jo would probably have reacted badly if her special person had told her that he didn’t believe anymore in what she believed. Loving someone and getting along well with them doesn’t mean that you will accept anything they do without problem and vice versa.
Think about the people that you find “special” in your life and imagine telling them that your beliefs have changed about something very important that you both believe in (used to be libertarian, now you have strong authoritarian beliefs/ used to be vegan, now eating ribs every night/ strongly partisan for one political party, switching to another/ etc) and imagine how they would react. Does that make them not “special” anymore?
Maybe this is fodder for another post:
A few people here said: “If that person was really special, there would be no problem with you telling him.”
But are things really that simple? Not so long ago, Jo would probably have reacted badly if her special person had told her that he didn’t believe anymore in what she believed. Loving someone and getting along well with them doesn’t mean that you will accept anything they do without problem and vice versa.
Think about the people that you find “special” in your life and imagine telling them that your beliefs have changed about something very important that you both believe in (used to be libertarian, now you have strong authoritarian beliefs/ used to be vegan, now eating ribs every night/ strongly partisan for one political party, switching to another/ etc) and imagine how they would react. Does that make them not “special” anymore?