Ouch. Sometimes the answer to “Why don’t you simply X?” is “What makes you so sure I didn’t already ‘simply X’ in the past, and maybe it just didn’t work as well as advertised?”.
It’s not necessarily that the strategy is bad, but sometimes it needs a few ingredients to make it work, such as specific skills, or luck.
On this issue specifically, I feel like the bar for what counts as an actually sane and non-dysfunctional organization to the average user of this website is probably way too lofty for 95% of workplaces out there (to be generous!) so it’s not even that strange that it would be the case.
This largely tracks with my experience wanting to work at a “more reasonable” company and struggling to do so. Many seemingly good jobs start to look a lot more awful the closer I get to them and I lose motivation. (I understand that this is also about risk tolerance and I’m fairly risk averse. And I understand that I’m simply not a strong candidate for highly competitive roles which may skew more sane.) Additionally, leaving a job and finding a new job are both immensely costly acts. So when it looks incredibly rare to find a “sane” workplace, and the costs keep mounting, in many cases the reasonable thing to do seems to be to stay.
Ouch. Sometimes the answer to “Why don’t you simply X?” is “What makes you so sure I didn’t already ‘simply X’ in the past, and maybe it just didn’t work as well as advertised?”.
It’s not necessarily that the strategy is bad, but sometimes it needs a few ingredients to make it work, such as specific skills, or luck.
On this issue specifically, I feel like the bar for what counts as an actually sane and non-dysfunctional organization to the average user of this website is probably way too lofty for 95% of workplaces out there (to be generous!) so it’s not even that strange that it would be the case.
This largely tracks with my experience wanting to work at a “more reasonable” company and struggling to do so. Many seemingly good jobs start to look a lot more awful the closer I get to them and I lose motivation. (I understand that this is also about risk tolerance and I’m fairly risk averse. And I understand that I’m simply not a strong candidate for highly competitive roles which may skew more sane.) Additionally, leaving a job and finding a new job are both immensely costly acts. So when it looks incredibly rare to find a “sane” workplace, and the costs keep mounting, in many cases the reasonable thing to do seems to be to stay.