being dishonest when honesty would violate local norms doesn’t necessarily feel like selling your soul. like concretely, in most normal groups of people, it is considered a norm violation to tell someone their shirt is really ugly even if this is definitely true. so I would only tell someone this if I was sufficiently confident that they would take it well—maybe I’ve known them long enough that I know they like the honesty, or we are in a social setting where people expect it. imo, it doesn’t take galaxy brain consequentialism to arrive at this particular norm, or impugn one’s honor to comply with this norm.
being dishonest when honesty would violate local norms doesn’t necessarily feel like selling your soul. like concretely, in most normal groups of people, it is considered a norm violation to tell someone their shirt is really ugly even if this is definitely true. so I would only tell someone this if I was sufficiently confident that they would take it well—maybe I’ve known them long enough that I know they like the honesty, or we are in a social setting where people expect it. imo, it doesn’t take galaxy brain consequentialism to arrive at this particular norm, or impugn one’s honor to comply with this norm.