I just came across an example of Guess Culture being troublesome.
I’m visiting my grandparents in a few weeks (my dad lives near them). My aunt is visiting too. We’re both flying in from different cities. My aunt sent out an email to me, my dad and my grandparents with her flight info. I then went to do the same.
I saw that my aunt’s email came from her work email address. I had an old personal email on file for her, but it had been a while since I used it, and I wasn’t sure if she still uses it, so I used her work email.
She then responded to me individually, from her work email, saying that this is her work email, she doesn’t it check it often in the summer, and to use her personal email in the future.
I suspect that she is unknowingly sending people things from her work email. I want to say something like:
Your original email came from your work email. Apparently you don’t want people sending things to your work email. But when you send things from your work email, when people want to reply, they will hit “reply”, which will send it to your work email. So if you don’t want people to send things to your work email, you shouldn’t send things out from your work email.
Perhaps you’re sending things from your work email by accident? Maybe you’re using MacOS’s built in Mail app, and have your work email as the one you send from by default, and don’t realize that’s what you’re doing?
Like most of the world, I have a (mostly) Guess Culture relationship with my aunt. I hesitate to say something like this to her, because in a Guess Culture, I fear that it’d be interpreted as:
Uh, it was your fault that I responded to your work e-mail. Not mine. Are you really going to accuse me of making a mistake? I’m the tech-savvy one.
Which is a shame, because if she’s sending things out from her work email by accident, it’s something she’d want to know about.
(In reality, I figured out a nicer way to phrase what I want to say and replied to her. And I’m pretty sure there won’t be any hard feelings from it. Nevertheless, I think the example does a solid job of illustrating how Guess Culture can be troublesome.)
I just came across an example of Guess Culture being troublesome.
I’m visiting my grandparents in a few weeks (my dad lives near them). My aunt is visiting too. We’re both flying in from different cities. My aunt sent out an email to me, my dad and my grandparents with her flight info. I then went to do the same.
I saw that my aunt’s email came from her work email address. I had an old personal email on file for her, but it had been a while since I used it, and I wasn’t sure if she still uses it, so I used her work email.
She then responded to me individually, from her work email, saying that this is her work email, she doesn’t it check it often in the summer, and to use her personal email in the future.
I suspect that she is unknowingly sending people things from her work email. I want to say something like:
Like most of the world, I have a (mostly) Guess Culture relationship with my aunt. I hesitate to say something like this to her, because in a Guess Culture, I fear that it’d be interpreted as:
Which is a shame, because if she’s sending things out from her work email by accident, it’s something she’d want to know about.
(In reality, I figured out a nicer way to phrase what I want to say and replied to her. And I’m pretty sure there won’t be any hard feelings from it. Nevertheless, I think the example does a solid job of illustrating how Guess Culture can be troublesome.)