Because you tend to always ask overstating your preferences, and the other party understands that you are probably overstating, hence preference claims lose informative value, and at some point they can just be dropped.
You seem to be claiming that in an Ask culture, if I say “I want X” I expect others to understand that I don’t actually want X, but rather want some other thing Y for which X is an overstatement, where Y doesn’t get stated explicitly.
In Tell culture you say something equivalent to “I want X with strength 9 out of 10”. The problem is that if everybody always says “9 out of 10″ the stated preference becomes meaningless and the message becomes “I want X”.
Can you clarify how overstating preferences reduces to Ask culture?
Because you tend to always ask overstating your preferences, and the other party understands that you are probably overstating, hence preference claims lose informative value, and at some point they can just be dropped.
You seem to be claiming that in an Ask culture, if I say “I want X” I expect others to understand that I don’t actually want X, but rather want some other thing Y for which X is an overstatement, where Y doesn’t get stated explicitly.
Have I understood you correctly?
No.
In Tell culture you say something equivalent to “I want X with strength 9 out of 10”.
The problem is that if everybody always says “9 out of 10″ the stated preference becomes meaningless and the message becomes “I want X”.
Ah! I now understand what you’re saying. Sure, that makes sense. Thanks for clarifying.