More generally, it may be that your unusual choices benefit you, but impose costs on your friends and family. Unusual choices are less “safe”—they can move you farther from ordinary outcomes, and the results are harder to predict. Compare the stereotyped conflicts between parents and their teenaged kids:
Teenager (as seen by parents):
“Later, olds! I’m going out with my poorly socialised friends to get wasted and hook up (maybe someone will get pregnant). Woo!”
Parents (as seen by teenager):
“Stop there! Ve have ways of preventing your fun! You are never allowed to do anything that you enjoy, ever!”
More generally, it may be that your unusual choices benefit you, but impose costs on your friends and family. Unusual choices are less “safe”—they can move you farther from ordinary outcomes, and the results are harder to predict. Compare the stereotyped conflicts between parents and their teenaged kids:
Teenager (as seen by parents): “Later, olds! I’m going out with my poorly socialised friends to get wasted and hook up (maybe someone will get pregnant). Woo!”
Parents (as seen by teenager): “Stop there! Ve have ways of preventing your fun! You are never allowed to do anything that you enjoy, ever!”