Not having played this side of it so can’t say I’ve tried this, but I’d try putting something in your bio that solicits useful filtering info at the start, like “if you ping me or we match, please start by telling me/answering...”, and try to find a prompt there that’s informative for what you’re looking for. It might be as dumb as reading comprehension or more like “what kind of relationship are you hoping for?” or “life values”. But I would iterate on it. An unintuitive thing to do would be then to also proceed further with people who give answers you don’t like much, to see if you’re getting false negatives because the early screen is bad.
Another idea is to put in your bio stuff that matters to/about you (that’s important) but would dissuade suitors and let them filter themselves out earlier.
My personal favorite filter is writing though. You might not get many takers but “link to me to your blog” is a way to get a lot more info about someone.
Not having played this side of it so can’t say I’ve tried this, but I’d try putting something in your bio that solicits useful filtering info at the start, like “if you ping me or we match, please start by telling me/answering...”, and try to find a prompt there that’s informative for what you’re looking for. It might be as dumb as reading comprehension or more like “what kind of relationship are you hoping for?” or “life values”. But I would iterate on it. An unintuitive thing to do would be then to also proceed further with people who give answers you don’t like much, to see if you’re getting false negatives because the early screen is bad.
Another idea is to put in your bio stuff that matters to/about you (that’s important) but would dissuade suitors and let them filter themselves out earlier.
My personal favorite filter is writing though. You might not get many takers but “link to me to your blog” is a way to get a lot more info about someone.