Female perspective- I see deliberate bad behavior as MUCH MUCH worse than ineptitude.
People who act deliberately bad are bad people and I don’t want them near me. Assholes are NOT worth hanging out with. Men who are ok with hanging out with these sorts of people (“Well they act deliberately bad towards women, but have social status/ are fun to be with, so...”) are supporting their deliberately bad behavior, and showing that they will not support women when men are deliberately bad towards them. I don’t want to hang out with THOSE sorts of guys either.
People who are just inept are not as scary, and can learn “ept-ness”. They might occasionally creep me out accidentally, but are not doing the deliberately bad things that I believe SHOULD result in social shunning.
Female perspective- I see deliberate bad behavior as MUCH MUCH worse than ineptitude.
People who act deliberately bad are bad people and I don’t want them near me. Assholes are NOT worth hanging out with. Men who are ok with hanging out with these sorts of people (“Well they act deliberately bad towards women, but have social status/ are fun to be with, so...”) are supporting their deliberately bad behavior, and showing that they will not support women when men are deliberately bad towards them. I don’t want to hang out with THOSE sorts of guys either.
People who are just inept are not as scary, and can learn “ept-ness”. They might occasionally creep me out accidentally, but are not doing the deliberately bad things that I believe SHOULD result in social shunning.