I will also note that Aella’s relationships data is public, and has the following questions:
1. Your age? (rkkox57)
2. Which category fits you best? (4790ydl)
3. In a world where your partner was fully aware and deeply okay with it, how much would you be interested in having sexual/romantic experiences with people besides your partner? (ao3mcdk)
4. In a world where you were fully aware and deeply okay with it, how much would *your partner* be interested in having sexual/romantic experiences with people besides you? (wcq3vrx)
5. To get a little more specific, how long have you been in a relationship with this person? (wqx272y)
6. Which category fits your partner best? (u9jccbo)
7. Are you married to your partner? (pfqs9ad)
8. Do you have children with your partner? (qgjf1nu)
9. Have you or your partner ever cheated on each other? (hhf9b8h)
10. On average, over the last six months, about how often do you watch porn or consume erotic content for the purposes of arousal? (vnw3xxz)
11. How often do you and your partner have a fight? (x6jw4sp)
12. "It’s hard to imagine being happy without this relationship." (6u0bje)
13. "I have no secrets from my partner" (bgassjt)
14. "If my partner and I ever split up, it would be a logistical nightmare (e.g., separating house, friends) (e1claef)
15. "If my relationship ended I would be absolutely devastated" (2ytl03s)
16. "I don't really worry about other attractive people gaining too much of my partner's affection" (61m55wv)
17. "I sometimes worry that my partner will leave me for someone better" (xkjzgym)
18. "My relationship is playful" (w2uykq1)
19. "My partner an I are politically aligned" (12ycrs5)
20. "We have compatible humor" (o9empfe)
21. "The long-term routines and structure of my life are intertwined with my partner's" (li0toxk)
22. "The passion in this relationship is deeply intense" (gwzrhth)
23. "I share the same hobbies with my partner" (89hl8ys)
24. "My relationship causes me grief or sorrow" (rm0dtr6)
25. "If we broke up, I think I could date a higher quality person than they could" (vh27ywp)
26. "In hindsight, getting into this relationship was a bad idea" (1y6wfih)
27. "I feel like I would still be a desirable mate even if my partner left me" (qboob7y)
28. "My partner and I are sexually compatible" (9nxbebp)
29. "I often feel jealousy in my relationship" (kfcicm9)
30. "I think this relationship will last for a very long time" (ob8595u)
31. "My partner enables me to learn and grow" (e2oy448)
32. "My partner doesn't excite me" (6fcm06c)
33. "My partner doesn't sexually fulfill me" (xxf5wfc)
34. "I rely on my partner for a sense of self worth" (j0nv7n9)
35. "My partner and I handle fights well" (brtsa94)
36. "I feel confident in my relationship's ability to withstand everything life has to throw at us" (p81ekto)
37. "I sometimes fear my partner" (a21v31h)
38. "I try to stay aware of my partner's potential infidelity" (5qbgizc)
39. "I share my thoughts and opinions with my partner" (6lwugp9)
40. "This relationship is good for me" (wko8n8m)
41. "My partner takes priority over everything else in my life" (2sslsr1)
42. "We respect each other" (c39vvrk)
43. "My partner is more concerned with being right than with getting along" (rlkw670)
44. "I am more needy than my partner" (f3or362)
45. "I feel emotionally safe with my partner" (or9gg0a)
46. "I'm satisfied with our sex life" (6g14ks)
47. "My partner physically desires me" (kh7ppyp)
48. "My partner and I feel comfortable explicitly discussing our relationship on a meta level" (jrzzb06)
49. "My partner knows all my sexual fantasies" (s3cgjd2)
50. "My partner and I are intellectually matched" (ku1vm67)
51. "I am careful to maintain a personal identity separate from my partner" (u5esujt)
52. "I'm worried I'm not good enough for my partner" (45rohqq)
53. "My partner judges me" (fr4mr4a)
54. Did you answer this survey honestly/for a real partner? (7bfie2v)
55. On average, over the last six months, about how often do you and your partner have sex? (n1iblql)
56. Is the partner you just answered for, your longest romantic relationship? (zjfk3cu)
which should allow you to test a lot of your candidate answers, for example your first 3 hypotheses could be answered by looking at these:
Do you have children with your partner? (qgjf1nu)
“If my partner and I ever split up, it would be a logistical nightmare (e.g., separating house, friends) (e1claef) or 21. “The long-term routines and structure of my life are intertwined with my partner’s” (li0toxk)
“I feel like I would still be a desirable mate even if my partner left me” (qboob7y)
I will also note that Aella’s relationships data is public, and has the following questions:
which should allow you to test a lot of your candidate answers, for example your first 3 hypotheses could be answered by looking at these:
Do you have children with your partner? (qgjf1nu)
“If my partner and I ever split up, it would be a logistical nightmare (e.g., separating house, friends) (e1claef) or 21. “The long-term routines and structure of my life are intertwined with my partner’s” (li0toxk)
“I feel like I would still be a desirable mate even if my partner left me” (qboob7y)