Cases of ‘being groomed as an omega’ are incredibly rare, in my experience—like, I’ve heard of it happening between individuals, and my model supports a couple of cases where it could look like a group thing because the individual who’s decided to do that has followers who will go along with them (aka bullying), but for the most part when it comes to social groups that aren’t built entirely around a particular leader (which is usually fairly obvious), they’re either broken enough to shit on most everybody in them to one degree or another, or cases of abuse are the unintended result of personality conflicts or fairly predictable responses by group members to the abused party’s behavior. (This is only intended to cover cases of keeping someone around to have them be an omega, though—trying to drive an unwanted interloper out by making them uncomfortable also happens, and I think it’s fairly common but I’m not sure of the frequency—how I select for groups to interact with biases me too much to comment on the issue.)
I think your conception of intentionality is causing you to see a nuanced distinction between “grooming X as an omega” and “abuse as an unintended result of personality conflicts/fairly predictable responses to behavior”.
I don’t have a real concept of ‘intentionality’ to fall back on, so I may not be capable of perceiving that nuance.
Disregarding the ‘personality conflict’ situation for the moment, the predictive difference between the other two mostly has to do with what happens when you stop acting like an easy victim in social interactions: In the grooming case, you’ll most likely just be ignored; in the response-to-behavior case, you’ll start seeing an uptick in positive interactions.
No; I’ve been having a lot of trouble figuring out how to access PMs in a way that doesn’t get lost in the stream of the site. Is there some way to filter PMs from discussion comments?
I think your conception of intentionality is causing you to see a nuanced distinction between “grooming X as an omega” and “abuse as an unintended result of personality conflicts/fairly predictable responses to behavior”.
I don’t have a real concept of ‘intentionality’ to fall back on, so I may not be capable of perceiving that nuance.
Sure.
Disregarding the ‘personality conflict’ situation for the moment, the predictive difference between the other two mostly has to do with what happens when you stop acting like an easy victim in social interactions: In the grooming case, you’ll most likely just be ignored; in the response-to-behavior case, you’ll start seeing an uptick in positive interactions.
Sure, but that relies on having accurate models and implementation strategies of “not acting like an easy victim”.
Yep. The latter is really hard to convey in this kind of format, though.
You did see that I PM’d you my skype username?
No; I’ve been having a lot of trouble figuring out how to access PMs in a way that doesn’t get lost in the stream of the site. Is there some way to filter PMs from discussion comments?