I wonder whether it’s relevant that K comes across as consciously knowing that he’s interested, and thus capable of reasoning about what he wants (and how to get it ethically and within social bounds); whereas B is acting on instinct and without awareness, so may suddenly come out with a proposition (or a grope) out of nowhere. If you aren’t reasoning about your goals in a social interaction, your goal-directed actions may be rather random and unpredictable, which is bad for your partner.
I think that’s part of it too, yeah. B trying to keep all female friends as potential partners, but not actively pursuing any of them, just kind of randomly “going for it”.
I wonder whether it’s relevant that K comes across as consciously knowing that he’s interested, and thus capable of reasoning about what he wants (and how to get it ethically and within social bounds); whereas B is acting on instinct and without awareness, so may suddenly come out with a proposition (or a grope) out of nowhere. If you aren’t reasoning about your goals in a social interaction, your goal-directed actions may be rather random and unpredictable, which is bad for your partner.
I think that’s part of it too, yeah. B trying to keep all female friends as potential partners, but not actively pursuing any of them, just kind of randomly “going for it”.