It’s more socially acceptable for a woman to suggest a man should be castrated, emasculated (a word which refers to the wholesale removal of a man’s genitals, incidentally, as opposed to castration, which refers only to removal of the testicles), anally raped, or than any analogous reversal.
What on Earth makes you think that I find that dynamic acceptable? Non-consent is non-consent.
I didn’t imply you find it acceptable. The question was, if you think social acceptability is predictive of behavior, do you expect to see more violence against men than women—that is, should you expect that violence by women against men is a larger social problem, given that it is more socially acceptable?
I see what you are asking. I think my most relevant response is that I don’t think the word “more” in the quoted text is accurate.
The Steubenville victim got death threats from people who knew her. Someone making the unacceptable comments you describe would generally be faced with awkward silence.
Incidentally, I’m no fan of speech codes, but I suspect ridiculous overreactions to stupid speech happens with somewhat equal prevalence on both political extremes. One ridiculous overreaction is too many, of course.
As I understood you, you meant “Society disapproves of female-on-male sexual violence. But society disapproves more strongly of male-on-female sexual violence.”
I just think you are factually wrong in that assertion, based on the differences in responses like the ones I noted.
Ah. I follow you now. And I find your comparison dishonest. First, you’re trying the general case against a specific case, and using your assumptions for the first. Second, you’re not comparing like cases; you’re comparing what angry family members said following a rape trial to reactions to speech. Third, you’re using an exceptional and unusual case.
The threats weren’t from family members. And the very debate we are having is whether Steubenville is exceptional and unusual for what happened to the victim or simply because it became world famous.
General vs. specific is a reasonable point—but looking at headlines from news sources that we each already agree with is unlikely to help us resolve this issue. I could point to examples from the yesmeansyes blog, but obviously they filter the evidence to focus on what they find problematic. No doubt you could also point to mostly reputable news sources for examples that you find problematic.
Interesting that you accept that narrative as a full explanation, when the link it itself provides refers to one of the girls as a relative.
Indeed, one of the death threats mentioned was: “You ripped my family apart, you made my cousin cry, so when I see you bitch it’s going to be a homicide”
That sounds less like ”...women often find it more personally beneficial to go along with sexism than to try to fight the power, on the theory that if you’re going to be treated like a second-class citizen anyway, you might as well not get yelled at all the time for speaking up about it” and more like an immature teenager whose life was thrown into turmoil and is looking for somebody to lash out against.
Let’s talk Steubenville, but let’s compare like to like. What do you think public perception would be of two teenage girls who played with the genitals of an unconscious drunk guy?
What do you think public perception would be of two teenage girls who played with the genitals of an unconscious drunk guy?
In the local community, if the two girls were co-captains of the softball team, and the town was softball-mad in the way Steubenville is apparently football-mad (American football)?
Your claim is that society is more tolerant of non-consensual violence on males, so your claims are false if society is merely equally tolerant. (And society is too tolerant of all physically harmful pressure to non-consensually or semi-consensually risk physical harm—consider the enormous social pressure on athletes to “man up” and play through injury).
Regarding Slate magazine (the source I’ve been linking) - I was linking them only for the facts—I don’t expect you to agree with their analysis, and I don’t necessarily endorse the analysis in any particular. But the facts they report are facts.
Society is not equally tolerant. There are of course asshats no matter what, but you’re using the existence of some intolerance on both sides as “proof” that the level of intolerance is equal.
What do you think public perception would be of two teenage girls who played with the genitals of an unconscious drunk guy?
Tangentially, it might be similar to public perception of this writer. From the top-displayed comments:
This is rape. Period. You’re one sick fuck.
Also:
Yes, because when a man is aroused it’s totally not rape is it...Fucking hell you’re stupid...
Edit: It might be a poor example of a gender-symmetrical act, since one actually can “play with” male genitals non-sexually; I do it whenever I use the bathroom, and have it done whenever I have a medical chekcup.
Two comments don’t exactly constitute public perception.
Incidentally, some women also touch themselves when they use the restroom (incidence rate is who the fuck knows) for approximately the same reasons, and, uh, you’ve never heard complaints about speculums?
Ford, Liwag-McLamb, and Foley, 1998 (among other studies, such as “What is a typical rape? Effects of victim and participant gender in female and male rape perception” by Irina Anderson in the British Journal of Social Psychology) suggest that people are less likely to label a given incident rape if the victim is a male, more likely to regard a male victim as complicit in or partially responsible for the rape, and more likely to regard male victims of rape negatively (the term used in the literature is generally “homophobic response”).
Incidentally, as for the legal status of the two girls—it wouldn’t be rape. It wouldn’t even be sexual assault. It’s generally classified as sexual battery, and is a misdemeanor in most jurisdictions.
OrphanWilde: [Factual, empirically-testable claim that:] For Set A: X > Y OrphanWilde: [Query:] (For Set A) Does X > Y imply f(X) > f(Y)? (got downvoted)
Response: I don’t find X acceptable. (Edit: Or perhaps: “I don’t find (X > Y) acceptable.”) (got upvoted)
Someone is being misread and uncharitably misinterpreted here.
Edit: Here’s a translation of my pseudologic above:
[Factual Claim] For some culture: Social acceptability of female-to-male violence (“X”) > Social acceptability of male-to-female violence (“Y”) [Query, perhaps rhetorical?] Does the social acceptability of gender-to-gender violence (“X” and “Y”) correlate with the actual frequency of corresponding gender-to-gender violent actions (“f(X)” and “f(Y)”)? [Implication] If so, we should expect that X > Y ==> f(X) > f(Y) ; that is, we should expect that there are more female-to-male acts of violence than the reverse, by this logic.
[Response] I don’t find the fact that (female-to-male violence is socially acceptable) acceptable. (Or perhaps that it’s more acceptable than the reverse, but I doubt that would be the intended meaning. )
( Anyone else notice that the response, while probably true and definitely admirable, does not engage in any way with the point? Anyone else notice that the one that points to a flaw in the earlier logic gets downvoted, while the other that responds with something barely related but applause-lighted gets upvoted? Anyone else notice that I got downvoted at first for attempting to point this out (the last two sentences)? )
I don’t think my interpretation was uncharitable; I think TimS indicated that reducing social acceptance/increasing social stigma for male-on-female violence would result in less violence, and if this didn’t work, his model would be challenged. (Or are you saying I was being uncharitably read? Having reread my comment; my point wasn’t very explicit at all, and kind of begged for an uncharitable reading. So I don’t hold the uncharitable reading against anybody.)
(Incidentally, don’t worry too much about the upvotes/downvotes in this post, they’re not necessarily indicative of the reasonableness of your position. There are definitely people who have very firmly taken sides, and are upvoting/downvoting anything they perceive to be on or supportive of the opposing side. Environmental hazard of touchy social issues, not much you can do.)
What on Earth makes you think that I find that dynamic acceptable? Non-consent is non-consent.
I didn’t imply you find it acceptable. The question was, if you think social acceptability is predictive of behavior, do you expect to see more violence against men than women—that is, should you expect that violence by women against men is a larger social problem, given that it is more socially acceptable?
I see what you are asking. I think my most relevant response is that I don’t think the word “more” in the quoted text is accurate.
The Steubenville victim got death threats from people who knew her. Someone making the unacceptable comments you describe would generally be faced with awkward silence.
Incidentally, I’m no fan of speech codes, but I suspect ridiculous overreactions to stupid speech happens with somewhat equal prevalence on both political extremes. One ridiculous overreaction is too many, of course.
By “more” I don’t mean society approves of it more, but disapproves of it less, if the distinction makes a difference.
As I understood you, you meant “Society disapproves of female-on-male sexual violence. But society disapproves more strongly of male-on-female sexual violence.”
I just think you are factually wrong in that assertion, based on the differences in responses like the ones I noted.
Ah. I follow you now. And I find your comparison dishonest. First, you’re trying the general case against a specific case, and using your assumptions for the first. Second, you’re not comparing like cases; you’re comparing what angry family members said following a rape trial to reactions to speech. Third, you’re using an exceptional and unusual case.
The threats weren’t from family members. And the very debate we are having is whether Steubenville is exceptional and unusual for what happened to the victim or simply because it became world famous.
General vs. specific is a reasonable point—but looking at headlines from news sources that we each already agree with is unlikely to help us resolve this issue. I could point to examples from the yesmeansyes blog, but obviously they filter the evidence to focus on what they find problematic. No doubt you could also point to mostly reputable news sources for examples that you find problematic.
Interesting that you accept that narrative as a full explanation, when the link it itself provides refers to one of the girls as a relative.
Indeed, one of the death threats mentioned was: “You ripped my family apart, you made my cousin cry, so when I see you bitch it’s going to be a homicide”
That sounds less like ”...women often find it more personally beneficial to go along with sexism than to try to fight the power, on the theory that if you’re going to be treated like a second-class citizen anyway, you might as well not get yelled at all the time for speaking up about it” and more like an immature teenager whose life was thrown into turmoil and is looking for somebody to lash out against.
Let’s talk Steubenville, but let’s compare like to like. What do you think public perception would be of two teenage girls who played with the genitals of an unconscious drunk guy?
In the local community, if the two girls were co-captains of the softball team, and the town was softball-mad in the way Steubenville is apparently football-mad (American football)?
I expect the locals in that hypothetical would react essentially like the locals in Steubenville—laughing at the victim, sharing humiliating pictures on social media, pressuring the victim not to complain. If the local reaction made national news, I expect criminal charges would be brought. Would the judge in the case warn the defendants “to have discussions about how you talk to your friends; how you record things on the social media so prevalent today; and how you conduct yourself when drinking is put upon you by your friends”? Don’t know.
Your claim is that society is more tolerant of non-consensual violence on males, so your claims are false if society is merely equally tolerant. (And society is too tolerant of all physically harmful pressure to non-consensually or semi-consensually risk physical harm—consider the enormous social pressure on athletes to “man up” and play through injury).
Regarding Slate magazine (the source I’ve been linking) - I was linking them only for the facts—I don’t expect you to agree with their analysis, and I don’t necessarily endorse the analysis in any particular. But the facts they report are facts.
It might be relevant that there’s no enthusiasm for any female sport comparable to the enthusiasm for some male sports.
This doesn’t mean I think the enthusiasm for male sports is an unmitigated advantage for males.
Criminal charges would be limited to a misdemeanor in most jurisdictions within the US.
I’ve referenced some studies here: http://lesswrong.com/lw/fmv/lw_women_submissions_on_misogyny/8r7f
Society is not equally tolerant. There are of course asshats no matter what, but you’re using the existence of some intolerance on both sides as “proof” that the level of intolerance is equal.
Tangentially, it might be similar to public perception of this writer. From the top-displayed comments:
Also:
Edit: It might be a poor example of a gender-symmetrical act, since one actually can “play with” male genitals non-sexually; I do it whenever I use the bathroom, and have it done whenever I have a medical chekcup.
Two comments don’t exactly constitute public perception.
Incidentally, some women also touch themselves when they use the restroom (incidence rate is who the fuck knows) for approximately the same reasons, and, uh, you’ve never heard complaints about speculums?
Ford, Liwag-McLamb, and Foley, 1998 (among other studies, such as “What is a typical rape? Effects of victim and participant gender in female and male rape perception” by Irina Anderson in the British Journal of Social Psychology) suggest that people are less likely to label a given incident rape if the victim is a male, more likely to regard a male victim as complicit in or partially responsible for the rape, and more likely to regard male victims of rape negatively (the term used in the literature is generally “homophobic response”).
Incidentally, as for the legal status of the two girls—it wouldn’t be rape. It wouldn’t even be sexual assault. It’s generally classified as sexual battery, and is a misdemeanor in most jurisdictions.
No, you should not expect that. Social acceptability is only one variable. Other things are not equal.
OrphanWilde: [Factual, empirically-testable claim that:] For Set A: X > Y
OrphanWilde: [Query:] (For Set A) Does X > Y imply f(X) > f(Y)?
(got downvoted)
Response: I don’t find X acceptable. (Edit: Or perhaps: “I don’t find (X > Y) acceptable.”)
(got upvoted)
Someone is being misread and uncharitably misinterpreted here.
Edit: Here’s a translation of my pseudologic above:
[Factual Claim] For some culture: Social acceptability of female-to-male violence (“X”) > Social acceptability of male-to-female violence (“Y”)
[Query, perhaps rhetorical?] Does the social acceptability of gender-to-gender violence (“X” and “Y”) correlate with the actual frequency of corresponding gender-to-gender violent actions (“f(X)” and “f(Y)”)?
[Implication] If so, we should expect that X > Y ==> f(X) > f(Y) ; that is, we should expect that there are more female-to-male acts of violence than the reverse, by this logic.
[Response] I don’t find the fact that (female-to-male violence is socially acceptable) acceptable. (Or perhaps that it’s more acceptable than the reverse, but I doubt that would be the intended meaning. )
( Anyone else notice that the response, while probably true and definitely admirable, does not engage in any way with the point? Anyone else notice that the one that points to a flaw in the earlier logic gets downvoted, while the other that responds with something barely related but applause-lighted gets upvoted? Anyone else notice that I got downvoted at first for attempting to point this out (the last two sentences)? )
I don’t think my interpretation was uncharitable; I think TimS indicated that reducing social acceptance/increasing social stigma for male-on-female violence would result in less violence, and if this didn’t work, his model would be challenged. (Or are you saying I was being uncharitably read? Having reread my comment; my point wasn’t very explicit at all, and kind of begged for an uncharitable reading. So I don’t hold the uncharitable reading against anybody.)
(Incidentally, don’t worry too much about the upvotes/downvotes in this post, they’re not necessarily indicative of the reasonableness of your position. There are definitely people who have very firmly taken sides, and are upvoting/downvoting anything they perceive to be on or supportive of the opposing side. Environmental hazard of touchy social issues, not much you can do.)