One alternative I’ve encountered is to blame the behavior, rather than the person; change the behavior, rather than the person. (I’m not particularly fond of that approach; it sets off a shitload of my personal ethical alarm bells relating to manipulative behaviors and de-agentizing people. But for people who use less explicit ethics, it could work).
Not sure you have much in the way of good alternatives as “changing the person” should set off even louder bells from your manipulative-behaviors alarms.
One alternative I’ve encountered is to blame the behavior, rather than the person; change the behavior, rather than the person. (I’m not particularly fond of that approach; it sets off a shitload of my personal ethical alarm bells relating to manipulative behaviors and de-agentizing people. But for people who use less explicit ethics, it could work).
Not sure you have much in the way of good alternatives as “changing the person” should set off even louder bells from your manipulative-behaviors alarms.