Posting this before reading the comments to give a summary/response based on my own internal experiences. Quick note: I’m extremely good at internalizing/manipulating information, and about proficient at “reacting”. It might also be worth noting sex (I’m male), since I could definitely see these kinds of thought processes being different on the two standard systems.
This analysis is definitely subject to the “generalizing from one example” problem, considering some large differences between the thought mechanisms you mention and my own. One telling example is the programming/reacting analogy: when programming(and writing, after the first stage of composition) I have this tendency to “hold the whole program in my head” as I’ve heard it called, and in doing so I don’t use an internal monologue at all. In fact, when I’m solving most problems(math, spatial manipulations, logic puzzles) in my mind, my internal monologue is silent, and rather I’m working silently in my headspace- my reasoning methods feel spatial, rather than verbal. When working in a group (cooking is the closest example of “reacting” that I can relate to in terms of necessitated efficiency/urgency) the monologue is still silent and I’m solving problems through psuedospatial manipulation; the significantly smaller amount of problem solving necessary does tend to allow the problem/solution to just remain static in my head for most of the time though while I engage in physical tasks, rather than actively solving it. This for me, leads to a sense that very little focus is used while reacting; some tasks (mincing garlic, dicing onions(crying makes it harder), &c.) however may require close attention, if physically complicated, and this might be the other kind of focus you mention. I can, overall, add another confirming data point to the “silencing your internal monologue is helpful/necessary for reacting properly” hypothesis though.
I also have some possible suggestions, though mileage will likely vary very extremely:
silencing ones internal monologue can be aided by meditation- in fact, they are practically equivalent- so the initial meditation exercises, to “clear ones mind” may prove useful in getting used to doing this, and possibly make it easier.
there’s no need to practice silencing your internal monologue only while “reacting”-try doing it during everyday tasks where intense thought isn’t necessary(eg brushing your teeth), and it might become that much easier.
if your brain works like mine, you may be able to delegate certain tasks to parts of your mind not directly linked to what you consider “you” (one notably common example is how sometimes you realize the solution to a problem you were working on a while ago but not actively thinking about), and if you can get good at this, it works better(for me) than memorizing responses- just let yourself respond on automatic.
...Several years later, I finally got up the willpower and time to start meditating, and it did help. But not as much as other things, like just getting a lot of practice.
Posting this before reading the comments to give a summary/response based on my own internal experiences. Quick note: I’m extremely good at internalizing/manipulating information, and about proficient at “reacting”. It might also be worth noting sex (I’m male), since I could definitely see these kinds of thought processes being different on the two standard systems.
This analysis is definitely subject to the “generalizing from one example” problem, considering some large differences between the thought mechanisms you mention and my own. One telling example is the programming/reacting analogy: when programming(and writing, after the first stage of composition) I have this tendency to “hold the whole program in my head” as I’ve heard it called, and in doing so I don’t use an internal monologue at all. In fact, when I’m solving most problems(math, spatial manipulations, logic puzzles) in my mind, my internal monologue is silent, and rather I’m working silently in my headspace- my reasoning methods feel spatial, rather than verbal. When working in a group (cooking is the closest example of “reacting” that I can relate to in terms of necessitated efficiency/urgency) the monologue is still silent and I’m solving problems through psuedospatial manipulation; the significantly smaller amount of problem solving necessary does tend to allow the problem/solution to just remain static in my head for most of the time though while I engage in physical tasks, rather than actively solving it. This for me, leads to a sense that very little focus is used while reacting; some tasks (mincing garlic, dicing onions(crying makes it harder), &c.) however may require close attention, if physically complicated, and this might be the other kind of focus you mention. I can, overall, add another confirming data point to the “silencing your internal monologue is helpful/necessary for reacting properly” hypothesis though.
I also have some possible suggestions, though mileage will likely vary very extremely:
silencing ones internal monologue can be aided by meditation- in fact, they are practically equivalent- so the initial meditation exercises, to “clear ones mind” may prove useful in getting used to doing this, and possibly make it easier.
there’s no need to practice silencing your internal monologue only while “reacting”-try doing it during everyday tasks where intense thought isn’t necessary(eg brushing your teeth), and it might become that much easier.
if your brain works like mine, you may be able to delegate certain tasks to parts of your mind not directly linked to what you consider “you” (one notably common example is how sometimes you realize the solution to a problem you were working on a while ago but not actively thinking about), and if you can get good at this, it works better(for me) than memorizing responses- just let yourself respond on automatic.
...Several years later, I finally got up the willpower and time to start meditating, and it did help. But not as much as other things, like just getting a lot of practice.