I realize this is a harsh thing to say, but given your focus on truth seeking and the general agreement with the sentiments expressed I think it’s okay to say.
You write that you “instead started seeing them as NPCs to manipulate for fun.” and “while I still held any amount of respect for them.” These are feelings that mature people with a kind character shouldn’t have, and they sound borderline sociopathic. Most people don’t enjoy manipulating strangers who didn’t do anything intentionally to hurt them, and yet you did in your story. That should serve as a reflection for whether your apparent ranking function that prioritizes truth seeking is not missing other important facets of life like being a kind person.
It is to your credit that you have noticed this and kind of feel bad about it, but this is just the first step to actually update the other parts of your world model. Questions that you should ask yourself: do you respect highly intelligent and competent criminals or dictators, or do you hold them to a similar degree of contempt as the attendees of these meetups?
Please do not call me a bitch, I do not think this is an appropriate thing to do.
I do not agree with the general sentiments expressed in the post and it makes me sad that some people seem to think that I do.
Even if I did, though, I would still be quite upset over your use of the term in your response. I understand that I used it first and that you put it in quotes, but even still, it was hurtful to read, much more so than if the charge you levied was just that I scored poorly at not being elitist. With the harshness of the surrounding context, it really increases the amount of hostility that I sense from you in a way that makes it more difficult for me to engage with the contents of your comment.
[Note: Edited a very rude word out]
I realize this is a harsh thing to say, but given your focus on truth seeking and the general agreement with the sentiments expressed I think it’s okay to say.
You write that you “instead started seeing them as NPCs to manipulate for fun.” and “while I still held any amount of respect for them.” These are feelings that mature people with a kind character shouldn’t have, and they sound borderline sociopathic. Most people don’t enjoy manipulating strangers who didn’t do anything intentionally to hurt them, and yet you did in your story. That should serve as a reflection for whether your apparent ranking function that prioritizes truth seeking is not missing other important facets of life like being a kind person.
It is to your credit that you have noticed this and kind of feel bad about it, but this is just the first step to actually update the other parts of your world model. Questions that you should ask yourself: do you respect highly intelligent and competent criminals or dictators, or do you hold them to a similar degree of contempt as the attendees of these meetups?
Please do not call me a bitch, I do not think this is an appropriate thing to do.
I do not agree with the general sentiments expressed in the post and it makes me sad that some people seem to think that I do.
Even if I did, though, I would still be quite upset over your use of the term in your response. I understand that I used it first and that you put it in quotes, but even still, it was hurtful to read, much more so than if the charge you levied was just that I scored poorly at not being elitist. With the harshness of the surrounding context, it really increases the amount of hostility that I sense from you in a way that makes it more difficult for me to engage with the contents of your comment.
My apologies, I have now removed the term. It was also inappropriate to ascertain so much about your personality from just this post.