Your recollections of spending time with your inlaws brings up an interesting asymmetry: you only talk about you adjusting to fit with their ways of being. If, apart from any intellectual disparity between you and them, you view them to be social or humanistic equals, should you expect them to have an equal obligation to fit with you as you have to fit with them? Put another way, what does it imply about your view of them socially or humanistically that you (apparently) do not have this symmetrical expectation?
Oh, I think they probably try to adapt in a variety of ways to be more hospitable & compatible with me when I’m around. (Although to a certain extent, maybe I’m more weird (less “normie”) than they are, plus I’m from a younger generation, so the onus is more on me socially to adapt myself to their ways?) But the focus of my comment was about the ways that I personally try to relate to people who are quite different from me. So I didn’t want to dive into how they might find it difficult or annoying being around me and how they might deal with this (though I’m sure they do find me annoying in some ways—another reason to be grateful, have humility, etc!).
Your recollections of spending time with your inlaws brings up an interesting asymmetry: you only talk about you adjusting to fit with their ways of being. If, apart from any intellectual disparity between you and them, you view them to be social or humanistic equals, should you expect them to have an equal obligation to fit with you as you have to fit with them? Put another way, what does it imply about your view of them socially or humanistically that you (apparently) do not have this symmetrical expectation?
Oh, I think they probably try to adapt in a variety of ways to be more hospitable & compatible with me when I’m around. (Although to a certain extent, maybe I’m more weird (less “normie”) than they are, plus I’m from a younger generation, so the onus is more on me socially to adapt myself to their ways?) But the focus of my comment was about the ways that I personally try to relate to people who are quite different from me. So I didn’t want to dive into how they might find it difficult or annoying being around me and how they might deal with this (though I’m sure they do find me annoying in some ways—another reason to be grateful, have humility, etc!).