Any advice on how to incrementally push further without skipping all the way to becoming shocking/offensive?
You want to make sure you are doing collaborative truth seeking not adversarial truth seeking. Some statements to bring people to the same side in the intent to seek truth can help. “we agree that we both want to get to the bottom of this, and with the right evidence we’d definitely change our minds. Let’s work together to find out what the true state of affairs is.
Make smaller claims. I make a lot of progress by only doing small steps. you may find that you have made inferential leaps in reasoning if you make smaller steps.
Vulnerability suggests you need to dare greatly and take the risk in sharing the things that are hard to say—in order to reap the rewards of connecting well.
See the other person’s point of view
You need to be able to say, “I understand that you say x” and have them agree. You don’t have to say, “you are so right when you say x”
You want to make sure you are doing collaborative truth seeking not adversarial truth seeking. Some statements to bring people to the same side in the intent to seek truth can help. “we agree that we both want to get to the bottom of this, and with the right evidence we’d definitely change our minds. Let’s work together to find out what the true state of affairs is.
Make smaller claims. I make a lot of progress by only doing small steps. you may find that you have made inferential leaps in reasoning if you make smaller steps.
Vulnerability suggests you need to dare greatly and take the risk in sharing the things that are hard to say—in order to reap the rewards of connecting well.
You need to be able to say, “I understand that you say x” and have them agree. You don’t have to say, “you are so right when you say x”