Well, “this” is broad, but I expect that failing to notice enmity, and relatedly being unaware of consequent social attacks, is a pretty common experience, especially in “polite” social contexts (that is, ones in which overt expressions of conflict violate social norms).
“Crocker’s Rules” are an attempt to subvert this; you might find it useful to declare that you operate under them… though I would expect not… in cases like you describe I expect that the downvoter(s) will not wish to be identified.
As someone with no particular aptitude in general niceties, I always welcome Crocker’s rules, and mistakenly assume that others do, too.
I wish you luck in deciphering the reason(s).
My best (but still low-confidence) guess, based on the timing and on being overly critical in a comment is that this may have been taken as overly harsh.
For what it is worth, I really liked your comment. Though I guess I’d be pissed (for a minute) if someone said it to me. I didn’t read the whole discussion, but she seemed pretty passioniate about her views. When I get that way, nothing makes me angrier than someone (rightly) pointing out that I’m “too passioniate” to discuss this clearly.
Well, “this” is broad, but I expect that failing to notice enmity, and relatedly being unaware of consequent social attacks, is a pretty common experience, especially in “polite” social contexts (that is, ones in which overt expressions of conflict violate social norms).
“Crocker’s Rules” are an attempt to subvert this; you might find it useful to declare that you operate under them… though I would expect not… in cases like you describe I expect that the downvoter(s) will not wish to be identified.
I wish you luck in deciphering the reason(s).
As someone with no particular aptitude in general niceties, I always welcome Crocker’s rules, and mistakenly assume that others do, too.
My best (but still low-confidence) guess, based on the timing and on being overly critical in a comment is that this may have been taken as overly harsh.
For what it is worth, I really liked your comment. Though I guess I’d be pissed (for a minute) if someone said it to me. I didn’t read the whole discussion, but she seemed pretty passioniate about her views. When I get that way, nothing makes me angrier than someone (rightly) pointing out that I’m “too passioniate” to discuss this clearly.