Yes, if he’s not actually a sociopath, it’s probably worth learning to like him.
But the odds of him being a sociopath are high enough that the expected utility doesn’t point that way at all. The disutility of being exploited by a sociopath is far worse than the opportunity cost of not liking this one person.
It sounds like the reason you’d want to not like him if he’s a sociopath is that then he’d probably exploit you—but don’t you already know that he’ll exploit you anyway?
Yes, if he’s not actually a sociopath, it’s probably worth learning to like him.
But the odds of him being a sociopath are high enough that the expected utility doesn’t point that way at all. The disutility of being exploited by a sociopath is far worse than the opportunity cost of not liking this one person.
It sounds like the reason you’d want to not like him if he’s a sociopath is that then he’d probably exploit you—but don’t you already know that he’ll exploit you anyway?