So can you control emotion with rationality, or can’t you? “There’s more fish in the sea” seems like classic emotion response control. Or maybe it’s that “emotion” vs. “feelings” idea— one you have control of, and one you do not? Or it’s the reaction you can control, not the emotion itself?
Having to “take a dream out behind the woodshed”, as it were, is part of becoming a whole person I guess, but it’s, basically by definition, not a pleasant experience. I reckon that’s by design, as sometimes, reality surprises you.
I think it boils down to the inherent paradox of persistence. There are adages about both ends of it— i.e. giving up too soon, and not giving up soon enough— and neither is “wrong” per se. I think mainly it can be hard to tell which is which, and maybe instead of looking at things as win or lose or pass or fail, we should, as someone already mentioned, enjoy the ride.
Does being able to do judo on our emotions count as being able to control them? Is this all semantics? I dunno— but I’m glad you found something that works for you, and share it in the hope that it helps others.
So can you control emotion with rationality, or can’t you? “There’s more fish in the sea” seems like classic emotion response control. Or maybe it’s that “emotion” vs. “feelings” idea— one you have control of, and one you do not? Or it’s the reaction you can control, not the emotion itself?
Having to “take a dream out behind the woodshed”, as it were, is part of becoming a whole person I guess, but it’s, basically by definition, not a pleasant experience. I reckon that’s by design, as sometimes, reality surprises you.
I think it boils down to the inherent paradox of persistence. There are adages about both ends of it— i.e. giving up too soon, and not giving up soon enough— and neither is “wrong” per se. I think mainly it can be hard to tell which is which, and maybe instead of looking at things as win or lose or pass or fail, we should, as someone already mentioned, enjoy the ride.
Does being able to do judo on our emotions count as being able to control them? Is this all semantics? I dunno— but I’m glad you found something that works for you, and share it in the hope that it helps others.