The “no-self” thing was still getting interpreted in terms of my existing ontology, rather than the ontology updating.
I’ll finish reading the other comments and then, time permitting, I’ll add my own.
I’ll just note for now that there’s a kind of “being clear” that I think is dangerous for rationality, in a way analogous to what you describe here about no-self. The sketch is something like: if an epistemology is built on top of an ontology, then that epistemology is going to have a hard time with a wide swath of ontological updates. Getting around this seems to require Looking at one’s ontologies and somehow integrating Looking into one’s epistemology. Being required to explain that in terms of a very specific ontology seems to give an illusion of understanding that often becomes sticky.