There are, in fact, plenty of couples who have diametrically opposed ideas on politics or religion. You just need to either a) agree to not discuss it or b) be willing to honestly debate and challenge each other without getting upset.
I agree that you should interact honestly and not tiptoe around what you think, but that doesn’t mean you have to agree on everything, even religion.
For what it’s worth, as irrational as religion is, I’m willing to bet that any atheist here has equally irrational ideas that they stick with.
Any atheist here, and equally irrational? That’s a bet I’d take.
It’s one thing to disagree with a person on a number of points, and another thing to be unable to respect their epistemology. On difficult matters, where it’s hard to locate an error, you can consider another person’s reasoning sound to respectable standards without agreeing with their conclusions (we’re only human after all,) and on matters of opinion, disagreement does not necessarily imply conflict of epistemology. Religion falls into neither category.
I used to be open to relationships with religious individuals, but eventually I came to the realization that I had been putting more effort into convincing myself that I was tolerant than being realistic about my preferences. I couldn’t be happy with such a relationship beyond the extremely short term.
Desrtopa makes the main points below; I’d like to add:
For what it’s worth, as irrational as religion is, I’m willing to bet that any atheist here has equally irrational ideas that they stick with.
Even accepting that premise, the difference is that I’m willing to update my map. If a religious person had the same willingness, ey already would no longer be religious.
There are, in fact, plenty of couples who have diametrically opposed ideas on politics or religion. You just need to either a) agree to not discuss it or b) be willing to honestly debate and challenge each other without getting upset.
I agree that you should interact honestly and not tiptoe around what you think, but that doesn’t mean you have to agree on everything, even religion.
For what it’s worth, as irrational as religion is, I’m willing to bet that any atheist here has equally irrational ideas that they stick with.
Any atheist here, and equally irrational? That’s a bet I’d take.
It’s one thing to disagree with a person on a number of points, and another thing to be unable to respect their epistemology. On difficult matters, where it’s hard to locate an error, you can consider another person’s reasoning sound to respectable standards without agreeing with their conclusions (we’re only human after all,) and on matters of opinion, disagreement does not necessarily imply conflict of epistemology. Religion falls into neither category.
I used to be open to relationships with religious individuals, but eventually I came to the realization that I had been putting more effort into convincing myself that I was tolerant than being realistic about my preferences. I couldn’t be happy with such a relationship beyond the extremely short term.
Desrtopa makes the main points below; I’d like to add:
Even accepting that premise, the difference is that I’m willing to update my map. If a religious person had the same willingness, ey already would no longer be religious.