Sure, given a choice between having to keep all of my sexual attractions secret, and only having to keep half of them secret, the latter is far better.
It seems the choice is, instead, between having your attraction and sexual appreciation mechanism biologically crippled so as to halve the potential partners or to give yourself the option of specialising your signalling as to optimise your chances within a specific target niche or of seeking more diverse experience.
But that seems to completely subvert MBlume’s original point…
Neutral returns as a worst case makes the point a good one. :)
Well, in my own life, the additional option of living in a social context in which honest signaling about gender-selection with respect to attraction and sexual appreciation doesn’t have especially negative consequences became available, and that has worked pretty well for me.
I’ve lived the “specializing my signaling” lifestyle before; I don’t prefer it. The returns of such signal-specialization can be worse than neutral in some cases.
Alas, a process by which I can modify myself to broaden the scope of those to whom I am sexually attracted is not available to me—I can’t give testimony either way. But I can always wish for it.
It seems the choice is, instead, between having your attraction and sexual appreciation mechanism biologically crippled so as to halve the potential partners or to give yourself the option of specialising your signalling as to optimise your chances within a specific target niche or of seeking more diverse experience.
Neutral returns as a worst case makes the point a good one. :)
Well, in my own life, the additional option of living in a social context in which honest signaling about gender-selection with respect to attraction and sexual appreciation doesn’t have especially negative consequences became available, and that has worked pretty well for me.
I’ve lived the “specializing my signaling” lifestyle before; I don’t prefer it. The returns of such signal-specialization can be worse than neutral in some cases.
But if it works for you, that’s great.
Alas, a process by which I can modify myself to broaden the scope of those to whom I am sexually attracted is not available to me—I can’t give testimony either way. But I can always wish for it.