As I mentioned above, having people social proof you, taking drugs, taking acting classes, meditating, and giving yourself therapy are all techniques worth experimenting with.
I could probably write a post about how I give myself therapy, but it might be difficult because essentially my self-therapy methods amount to phrases that get triggered in certain situations that remind me that feeling unhappy is not the rational thing to feel. (Example phrases: “I can deal with this level of emotional discomfort.” “I give you my permission not to think about that.” “As an exercise, try to feel [insert emotion here].” “Work with what you have.” “Take a risk.” “If I could choose to do X, I likely would.”) It might be hard for me to extract all of my heuristics, because they get ingrained over time. (E.g. I find myself using “work with what you have” less because as a result of using it, I’ve made progress in ingraining the principle of not feeling demoralized by setbacks.)
Come to think of it, this approach (mostly implemented subconsciously) has been so effective that I’m thinking it might be a good idea to consciously invent phrases to correct other undesirable mental patterns. For example, I’ve noticed that if I hold some radical opinion, my radical opinion tends to get weaker over time—when left unmonitored, my opinions tend to drift towards socially accepted opinions. But maybe if I said “No opinion drift” to myself whenever I noticed that happening, then I’d be reminded that I should only change my opinions based on evidence and arguments and not intuitions that might be corrupted by what’s socially accepted.
Oh yeah, one disadvantage of this self-therapy stuff seems to be a decreased ability to feel strong positive emotions. Basically to a certain extent, I’ve trained myself to stop feeling more or less any strong emotion whenever I start to feel it. So it’s up to you to decide whether you want to be more of a robot or not.
Please write a post on this, if it’s at all possible to discuss how you implant these phrases and how they help. I think it would really help me as well as others.
Whenever you saw a card corresponding to a phrase, you could challenge yourself to come up with a situation in your recent past which you could have used the phrase.
Alternatively, you could describe to me what stigma you tend to experience and I could tell you which phrases to use and how they apply to your situation. If you give me your email address, I can trivially send your future self a few reminders on what you should be keeping in mind (I use http://www.boomeranggmail.com/ for sending delayed emails). And, I’m extending this offer to anyone, not just Blueberry. If people are too embarrassed to discuss the stigma they are harmed by under their Less Wrong usernames, they can create shill usernames or email me with a shill email address at dreamalgebra on google’s email service.
As I mentioned above, having people social proof you, taking drugs, taking acting classes, meditating, and giving yourself therapy are all techniques worth experimenting with.
I could probably write a post about how I give myself therapy, but it might be difficult because essentially my self-therapy methods amount to phrases that get triggered in certain situations that remind me that feeling unhappy is not the rational thing to feel. (Example phrases: “I can deal with this level of emotional discomfort.” “I give you my permission not to think about that.” “As an exercise, try to feel [insert emotion here].” “Work with what you have.” “Take a risk.” “If I could choose to do X, I likely would.”) It might be hard for me to extract all of my heuristics, because they get ingrained over time. (E.g. I find myself using “work with what you have” less because as a result of using it, I’ve made progress in ingraining the principle of not feeling demoralized by setbacks.)
Come to think of it, this approach (mostly implemented subconsciously) has been so effective that I’m thinking it might be a good idea to consciously invent phrases to correct other undesirable mental patterns. For example, I’ve noticed that if I hold some radical opinion, my radical opinion tends to get weaker over time—when left unmonitored, my opinions tend to drift towards socially accepted opinions. But maybe if I said “No opinion drift” to myself whenever I noticed that happening, then I’d be reminded that I should only change my opinions based on evidence and arguments and not intuitions that might be corrupted by what’s socially accepted.
Oh yeah, one disadvantage of this self-therapy stuff seems to be a decreased ability to feel strong positive emotions. Basically to a certain extent, I’ve trained myself to stop feeling more or less any strong emotion whenever I start to feel it. So it’s up to you to decide whether you want to be more of a robot or not.
Please write a post on this, if it’s at all possible to discuss how you implant these phrases and how they help. I think it would really help me as well as others.
This isn’t how I implanted them, but you could try using a spaced repetition system such as Anki:
http://ankisrs.net/
Whenever you saw a card corresponding to a phrase, you could challenge yourself to come up with a situation in your recent past which you could have used the phrase.
Alternatively, you could describe to me what stigma you tend to experience and I could tell you which phrases to use and how they apply to your situation. If you give me your email address, I can trivially send your future self a few reminders on what you should be keeping in mind (I use http://www.boomeranggmail.com/ for sending delayed emails). And, I’m extending this offer to anyone, not just Blueberry. If people are too embarrassed to discuss the stigma they are harmed by under their Less Wrong usernames, they can create shill usernames or email me with a shill email address at dreamalgebra on google’s email service.
Also, I wonder if the system can be tweaked so that it doesn’t undercut strong positive emotions which are in the harmless-to-useful range.