Could we convince aAlice that she’s wrong; that private-calm speech is much closer to our true preferences than public-emotional speech is?
Forget aAlice, how about convincing me, a fellow human, of this fact. Your statement that private/calm speech is closer to our actual values does not reflect how I understand myself, nor how I understand many of the people around me. People sometimes say things that they don’t mean when under emotional distress, but they also sometimes use emotional excitement as a means to express things they would otherwise inhibit.
Forget aAlice, how about convincing me, a fellow human, of this fact. Your statement that private/calm speech is closer to our actual values does not reflect how I understand myself, nor how I understand many of the people around me. People sometimes say things that they don’t mean when under emotional distress, but they also sometimes use emotional excitement as a means to express things they would otherwise inhibit.
Cf. this discussion of “truth shouters” and “cutlery loaders”. Your argument seems to assume that everyone is a cutlery loader, which is definitely Not True.