Young female rationalists, plural? There’s more than one of us? :P
In seriousness, I suspect that the definition of “attractive” is being used quite widely here. When someone talks about a woman being pretty to look at, they’re probably talking about something mildly different from her being aesthetically pleasing—which is, again, different from said woman being conventionally attractive—and all of these are in totally different ballparks from a woman being happy and pleasant and that doing halo-effect things to her prettiness.
ETA: using the word “attractive” to refer to all these things feels like it could lead to a “My subjective experience is realer than yours” argument (‘Parsley is delicious!’ ‘No it’s not!’), or a signalling war (‘I have good standards!’ ‘Well, I have realistic ones!’)
Young female rationalists, plural? There’s more than one of us? :P
In seriousness, I suspect that the definition of “attractive” is being used quite widely here. When someone talks about a woman being pretty to look at, they’re probably talking about something mildly different from her being aesthetically pleasing—which is, again, different from said woman being conventionally attractive—and all of these are in totally different ballparks from a woman being happy and pleasant and that doing halo-effect things to her prettiness.
ETA: using the word “attractive” to refer to all these things feels like it could lead to a “My subjective experience is realer than yours” argument (‘Parsley is delicious!’ ‘No it’s not!’), or a signalling war (‘I have good standards!’ ‘Well, I have realistic ones!’)