My sense of the proper way to determine what is ethical is to make a distinction between a smuggler of influence and a detective of influence. The smuggler knows these six principles and then counterfeits them, brings them into situations where they don’t naturally reside.
The opposite is the sleuth’s approach, the detective’s approach to influence. The detective also knows what the principles are, and goes into every situation aware of them looking for the natural presence of one or another of these principles.
Robert Cialdini at the blog Bakadesuyo explaining the difference between ethical persuasion and the dark arts
Robert Cialdini at the blog Bakadesuyo explaining the difference between ethical persuasion and the dark arts