I also find it odd that polyamory counts but not, for instance, plots that fail when you assume other rare preferences of people. Why isn’t a plot that assumes that the main characters are heterosexual considered a Muggle Plot just as much as one which assumes they are monogamous?
Because poly evangelism? It certainly seems like something people decide is a good idea rather than some sort of innate preference difference.
But if that were true, I would have to admit that monogomy is probably a bad idea, and that would be sad :(
(shrug) My husband and I live in a largely poly-normative social environment, and are monogamous. We don’t object, we simply aren’t interested. It still makes “oh noes! which lover do I choose! I want them both!” plots seem stupid, though. (“if you want them both, date them both… what’s the difficulty here?”)
So, no, acknowledging that polyamory is something some people decide is a good idea doesn’t force me to “admit” that monogamy is a bad idea.
Admittedly, I’m also not sure why it would be sad if it did.
Actually, I was pretty tired when I wrote that, but thats what I think I meant.
(I’ll note that most monogomous people whose opinions I hear on this think polyamory is almost always a bad idea, although possibly OK for a rare minority. But if relationships are usually a good idea, and polyamory isn’t usually actively bad, then polyamory=more relationships=good, goes the 1:00 AM logic.)
Because poly evangelism? It certainly seems like something people decide is a good idea rather than some sort of innate preference difference.
But if that were true, I would have to admit that monogomy is probably a bad idea, and that would be sad :(
(shrug) My husband and I live in a largely poly-normative social environment, and are monogamous. We don’t object, we simply aren’t interested. It still makes “oh noes! which lover do I choose! I want them both!” plots seem stupid, though. (“if you want them both, date them both… what’s the difficulty here?”)
So, no, acknowledging that polyamory is something some people decide is a good idea doesn’t force me to “admit” that monogamy is a bad idea.
Admittedly, I’m also not sure why it would be sad if it did.
Because social norms, of course.
Actually, I was pretty tired when I wrote that, but thats what I think I meant.
(I’ll note that most monogomous people whose opinions I hear on this think polyamory is almost always a bad idea, although possibly OK for a rare minority. But if relationships are usually a good idea, and polyamory isn’t usually actively bad, then polyamory=more relationships=good, goes the 1:00 AM logic.)