The primary mechanism is ‘understanding’ boundaries instead of ‘lowering’ them, tho; like, often you end up in situations where you look at your boundaries and go “yep, that’s definitely helpful and where it should be” or you notice the way that you had been forcing yourself to behave a particular way and that was self-harming because you were ignoring one of your own boundaries.
Yeah, this description matches things I like about circling. I’ve had experiences with people who in normal life would want things of me that I don’t want to give them (e.g. types of social efforts and reassurances), and circling has given me space to practise not giving it to them when I endorse that, and introspecting in slow motion, understanding better and in more detail what both I and they are feeling (and I believe they’re learning things about themselves too).
Yeah, this description matches things I like about circling. I’ve had experiences with people who in normal life would want things of me that I don’t want to give them (e.g. types of social efforts and reassurances), and circling has given me space to practise not giving it to them when I endorse that, and introspecting in slow motion, understanding better and in more detail what both I and they are feeling (and I believe they’re learning things about themselves too).