I suppose there is always some “ideology” behind self-rejection, but perhaps it makes a difference whether that ideology is against your feelings on the object level, like “feelings are for losers” or “this specific feeling makes you a loser”, or on the meta level, like “thinking about your feelings is a waste of time”.
I mean, if it is the latter, it should be easier to overcome if you happen to be in a situation where you can’t do anything else, for example you are traveling by train and you forgot to bring a book, or you are hiking. Or it someone tries to start this topic with you. But if you have direct objections against feelings, you will actively oppose the opportunity to think about them.
I suppose there is always some “ideology” behind self-rejection, but perhaps it makes a difference whether that ideology is against your feelings on the object level, like “feelings are for losers” or “this specific feeling makes you a loser”, or on the meta level, like “thinking about your feelings is a waste of time”.
I mean, if it is the latter, it should be easier to overcome if you happen to be in a situation where you can’t do anything else, for example you are traveling by train and you forgot to bring a book, or you are hiking. Or it someone tries to start this topic with you. But if you have direct objections against feelings, you will actively oppose the opportunity to think about them.