Back when the DC meetups were first starting, we realized that we wanted to build up friendships faster than normal. One person (I think it was atucker) suggested that we start hugging each other, because that naturally installs feelings of affection for each other. It’s only a data point of 1, but it seemed to work very well in making us more comfortable with each other.
Hugs do seem to work. I wanted something more general, and safer for people who are uncomfortable.
Rather than just setting a reasonable (has to be low) affection set-point for the group, individual optimization can be more effective, IMO.
EDIT: The computational complexity of my rules is definately higher. I wonder if a groupwide protocol could be cheaper but still safe and effective (assuming mine is)
Back when the DC meetups were first starting, we realized that we wanted to build up friendships faster than normal. One person (I think it was atucker) suggested that we start hugging each other, because that naturally installs feelings of affection for each other. It’s only a data point of 1, but it seemed to work very well in making us more comfortable with each other.
Hugs do seem to work. I wanted something more general, and safer for people who are uncomfortable.
Rather than just setting a reasonable (has to be low) affection set-point for the group, individual optimization can be more effective, IMO.
EDIT: The computational complexity of my rules is definately higher. I wonder if a groupwide protocol could be cheaper but still safe and effective (assuming mine is)